Marriage advice please?

Question

I have been married for 5 years. My husband is from Turkey,and i am American. He came to the usa with only 50 dollars. Now 8 years later we own our own business , and we have a nice home. Since we have been married we have had 2 children. I stay at home with them. While he run's the business. I do everything, and i mean every thing around my home. I am almost a Turkish wife. We never fight. He has this attitude about money that kills me. He says i give you what you need not what you want. you need to get out , and work to have what you want. I want to know is this normal for a man to be like this in a marriage ? I feel it's not. Everything I have is his. I feel what i bring to our family isn't appreciated..please help me understand if i am wrong...thank you

Answer 1

Everyone has their own opinion and beliefs about money.  What's important is what you want. If you can't handle him not giving you money, get a job or leave him.

Answer 2

You are married anything that you all get during the marriage is both of yours.  So you should be allow to get some of the things that you want if the money is there for that.

Answer 3

i feel that once your married then everything becomes both of yours not just his you really need to talk to him and tell him that you dont feel appreciated

Answer 4

why do u listen to this? go get a job,take his advice,and let him find daycare and pay for that from ''his'' money. oh another thing,in america when ur married everything belongs to husband and wife equally,even if theres a prenup(those really only have use in divorces)

Answer 5

Wow!!! Ok, I also have been married 9 years, 2 kids, I am a stay at  home Mom too- My husband works hard and I do EVERYTHING around my house also- he goes to work and most of the time that's about it- but that's ok- In my eyes, I do it so when he gets home he can spend quality time with all of us and not have to worry about the other things. But, he never acts like that with $$$. Your husband is not being fair, you both contribute, even though your not bringing in $$$, your taking care of the Family in all the other sense of the word. I think you need to sit down and talk to him about that. I wish you luck- Tell him in America, things are equal!!!! :)

Answer 6

Walking away from marriage is not what I would recommend. Does he still care about you? or the Love has gone blank now? you have 2 kids, and it is important for them too, to work this relation in a healthy fashion. Tell your hubby that you do not like the way he treats you and there is no way you deserve to be treated like this. Tell him you have spend very important years of your life with him in bringing up this family. So it is not only his hard work but also yours that made him grow so much financially. Now this vanity of his wont leave him or you and your family at a good future. And also you still care about him the same way and want to care about him and the family all thru your life. So try to understand you and be supportive in the same way.

Getting someone else is so lame and that would indicate that you want your family to be apart. No going back. How can you love someone so much at one point and then not love the same person few years after?