Marriage annulled after wife found not to be a virgin - what are your thoughts?

Question

Apparently feminists are angered, but I'm not sure if I also wouldn't agree just on the principle of honesty. What do you think? :-)

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/europe/7428166.stm

Answer 1

I would be angry. Not so much that she wasn't a virgin but the fact that she lied would've done it for me.

Answer 2

Obviously this was very improtant to him and was a matter of trust, she lied to him and violated that trust and she certainly doesn't deserve to have any of the benefits going through a divorce would give her, sounds good to me

Answer 3

IMO the best approach those two can undertake is to go their separate ways.  It sounds a lot deeper than what you've described.  As a matter of fact, it sounds absolutely bananas on both their parts.  Better now than later, because it sure as heck will be later in a much more serious way.

Answer 4

It was a French Judge and a Moslem Marriage. This is a very big deal in Moslem Marriages. There is a new procedure Moslem Women are paying for to become Virgins again. This can lead to Honor Killings in some Moslem families.

You left out some important details in your question. The Man also had pressure from his Family. His Family was angry at the deception as well so the Marriage was annulled.

Answer 5

The guy may be an arseberet but if her virginity was a precondition for him marrying her then I don't see why the courts should not uphold that.

I think she should consider herself lucky she won't be married to him any longer.

Answer 6

I know I'd want to annul it too if my wife lied about such a serious matter.  That's some major false advertising.

Personally, I don't care if she's a virgin or not.  Just the lie itself.

Answer 7

Oh, I absolutely agree that a marriage is over as soon as there is a lie about something that is meaningful to the couple.  BUT, it gets nauseating when justice systems get involved in bedroom moralities.  Feminists and ANYONE of decent conscience should be outraged over the notion that the common law may be corrupted with the pet bedroom / courtship cultural moralities of one belief system or another.  I mean, fundamental Christians in the U.S. have "Purity Balls" in which daughters pledge their "virginity" to their fathers and promise to remain "unused" until her father "gives" her to the right man who can then have her precious cherry.  

Those people and people like Phylis Schafaly / Eagle Forum and their "Familiy Values" agendas fully intend to impose their fundamental religious bedroom moralities onto all the rest of us. It's quite easy to foresee, with people who are that subjective and determined to force their beliefs on us, that weirder things than "annulments" over virginity could become law unless people like that are opposed.

http://home.teleport.com/~gumball/belt01...

Answer 8

taking away the whole 'she has a right to have s*x.....blah blah blah', i agree with the guy. if she lied then its her own fault. she was dishonest. if a guy promised his fiance a house, all the money she wanted and a new car and it turned out he was lying people would be saying she should leave him. its not about her not being a vigin entirely, she lied. she can have s*x, but she should of been honest.

Answer 9

I think all of us would like to marry an honest partner.

Answer 10

perhaps someone had it in for him

Answer 11

Then marriage should be annulled after husband found not to be a virgin.

Answer 12

How'd they tell?  Unless she was pregnant, had an STD that could only be gotten through intercourse, or confessed, there's no way.

Answer 13

It's unfortunate but in many parts of the world (South Asia, Middle East, & parts of subsaharan Africa) it still happens. Did they test her to see if she was a virgin first? I can't imagine the humiliation. It is so sad that that still happens but it does.

EDIT: Normally, people can tell by checking to see if the woman's hymen is intact since it is *supposed* to tear the first time she is penetrated. If not, according to their culture, she is not a virgin.

It's disgusting.

Answer 14

omg what year are we in 1950 in sicily?(i'm half sicilian so i'm not offending no one that's how it was in the 50's)

Answer 15

The fact that the marriage was annulled because th woman was not a virgin, doesn't bother me.  What bugs me is that a French court is now using Sharia law in determining French civil law.

Answer 16

As long as she wasn't seeing somebody else while they were together there shouldn't be a problem.

Answer 17

Thats life for the muslims for ya, all the woman banging on about life as a woman in the UK want to go live there!

Answer 18

I think thats sad. I am glad for her to have held out as long as she did. I wanted to, but life just happened. :( anyway, i digress- PROPS to her and i wish her all the best in finding all the happiness she has been so strong to hold out for. I commend her in a world full of people with no morals and no worry for anything anymore. I think it is so awesome! Right on sister friend!

Answer 19

If she lied, that is a pretty large lie. On principle but also, if the guy actually asked, it must mean something to him and how disrespectful of her to lie about something that was important to him.

Answer 20

The ruling made clear it wasnt about the virginity but about deceiving. Good news is if he tells you he is 8 inches and it turns out he is only 5 you get an annullment too.

Not femmies are gettin riled up but political parties trying to reap the female vote.

Answer 21

If this were of paramount importance to him, and he stated this to her prior to the wedding, then I understand.  If not, tough luck, unless HE was a virgin as well.

Answer 22

I see nothing wrong with it.   The woman clearly did lied to him about being a virgin.  Men have the right to choose the type of women that they want to marry.

Answer 23

It's unfortunate but I'm not exactly angered. The woman lied and was deceptive in her about being a virgin. Although, I do not agree with France's ruling considering that this is a very secular country. How can they subject to the whims of Muslims? It's sad that countries in the West are giving into demands by people like them.

Answer 24

I guess he should have her tested before he said I do.  However annulling the marriage was his legal right if she did lie about being a virgin.  Although personally I see it as wrong I don't think that law should be removed. She should have been honest and decided to marry a man who was not picky on virginity and didn't care how many miles she had on her.

Answer 25

It's sad that people still have these beliefs and that's what angers feminists.  

That aside, she went along with the belief system and stated she was a virgin.  If she really was lying, then the annulment is justified.  

However, as others have said, what gave the man grounds to believe she wasn't a virgin.  If it is the obvious (i.e. lack of hymen, or bleeding), then a pretty dodgy precedent has been set, as it is well known that they are not very reliable indicators of virginity.

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Having read the extra stuff above, it strikes me that this is more about honesty, than sexual history. No worse than Renee Zellweger's marriage which was annulled in America on grounds of fraud.

And it seems reasonable all round.  At least we're not hearing about an honour killing because she wasn't a virgin.

Answer 26

If the husband wants to marry a virgin, this is his choice.

Answer 27

I'd like to know how exactly this little man decided his wife *wasn't* a virgin. It's not stamped on a woman's a$s, after all.