Marriage break down and scared...please give advice?

Question

Last week my marriage ended because i found things that he lied to me about, like gifts from women he works with, he opened his own face book and added 9 woman from work...he never added me...he searched for his ex wife. made dates to meet these woman to do fun things like jump out of planes...i have 3 kids and I'm trying to be strong and take control of my life by loosing weight and reading positive thinking books...has any one any other advice maybe you have been through this...what hurts the most is thinking of him with someone else..please share your thoughts and opinion's....

Answer 1

Sorry it didn't work out for you. It takes time and you have to stay busy. This might sound crazy, so don't knock it till you try this.

First try getting into some kind of sport, myself I have an extremely stressful job so I have been taking martial arts. When I am practicing I have no thoughts about what has been bothering me from the day. Plus I get to hit stuff without getting in trouble by the law.

Second one is real touchy with some people, get spiritual if you are not already.  It's another place I can go and not think about my problems. I've meet plenty of good people at both places that I can call my friend.

Hope this helps you.

Answer 2

File for divorce and take half of everything.

Please watch this video....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Chmnh3D4r...

Answer 3

You deserve better than him.  I'm really proud of you for having the courage to leave.  Get some counselling, just to have someone to talk to...maybe find a support group in your area...people you can connect to.  Now is the time for girlfriends and good friends.  Believe me you'll be better off in the end and definitely take the SOB to the cleaners financially.

Answer 4

Aww how terrible!

Sorry to hear this.  Just do you and get yourself together especially for the kids.  They will know when their mom isn't doing good.

Let him do him and it's sad to say but I'm sure he was doing other things behind your back that you never knew about.

If you couldn't trust him then chances are he's still up to no good!

Just continue to do what ever it is that you have to do in order to get yourself right.

He'll miss you but don't let him know that yu miss him and act as though you are doing great even if you are hurting inside.

He'll open his eye's and realized what he had and it'll be far to late.

Pray to God for strenght to get you thru the pain.  God Bless and Good Luck  

Answer 5

i know how you feel, when I split with my, it was devastating, I felt like I couldn't breath, it got so I wanted to follow them around and spy on them and it drove me crazy.  It took 3 months before I realized what a waste my ex was and that it was a waste of my precious time to dwell on the past.  Then I met someone absolutely amazing, believe me, you will meet someone else and he will knock your socks off.  I didn't think it was possible to meet anyone more amazing than me ex, well I was wrong.

Answer 6

I know what you are going through, Well my wife of almost 10 yrs decided she want to cheat on while on deployment to Iraq.  When she told me this I felt sick to my stomach and just could do anything.  I can't sleep, and eat.  I walk around here in a daze.  I read everything under the sun to help feel better, but just can't find any answers.  And like you I have kids also and also just the thought of her being with someone else kills me inside.  It almost feels that  may soul is gone.  What you need to do is just let go as much as it hurts, you need to think about your feelings and just know that you deserve better in your life.  You need to move on with your life and start doing what will be best for you and your children.  I know this hurts, trust me I know I am going through this now.  But it's going to take time for you to heal.  Just need to think positive and know that everything will be alright.  I hope this helps you.

Answer 7

I look at all the things me ex did when we were married and that always help. You know all the little things that drove you nuts. You don't have to clean up after him. Make sure you get alimony and child support. Ensure that is in the divorce and have the state agency collect the money for you.

If you are feeling like your whole world is falling apart I understand. I belong to FlyLady.net and it helps get your life in order and can also help getting you and the kids into routines which is great if they are in school. As far as your weight, you didn't gain it over night and it will take time to loose it.  I need to loose about 40 pounds and I am trying day by day. You can't change the past so enjoy today and look forward to tomorrow. Best wishes.

My ex was engaged before our divorce was even started. Life does gone on and now she gets to deal with his lying cheating butt. Not me :)