Marriage ceremony for me and his family?

Question

My husband and I got married shortly after finding out i was pregnant. We just had a court marriage, and I want an actual ceremony. We will be married 1 year next May (yes we just got married basically) should I try to have the ceremony then involving the baby or wait until she is older? Should I go to his home or should we go to mine? I'm at such a loss. I don't even know what to do about the fact that he is Catholic and I'm not.

Answer 1

Since everyone probably knows you're already married anyway, why not instead have a "renewal of vows" complete with wedding dress and reception.

By having the "renewal of vows" you won't be having people say you're trying to put one over on them just for the sake of wedding gifts.  And by having the reception as well, you're actually giving to your guests.

Also, a renewal of vows would be the proper etiquette, you could hold your child during the cermony if you wished, and you wouldn't be setting yourself up for gossip from "little people" with little minds and little else to do with their time.

One further thought:  he is Catholic and you were married in civil ceremony.  It's still possible probably to have a Catholic wedding since the Church doesn't recognize civil ceremonies.  Ask his priest.

Answer 2

it will be ok to have a wedding involving the baby its alright u both should talk about if the 2 of u want to go to one anothers homes or if u want to have a church wedding thats what my husband and i had its really beautiful when u have one the fact that hes Catholic should be something that both families should talk about  

Answer 3

Contact hubby's priest . . . or the priest at your local parish.  Ask him what is needed for a Catholic blessing.

Vow renewals (or blessings) are much simpler than weddings.

All vow renewals I have attended were brief ceremonies, taking place at the couple's regular place of worship . . . immediately following a regular worship service . Bride and groom had one attendant each. Some couples dressed more formally than others, but none of them wore bridal gowns or tuxes.

Each vow renewal was followed by a luncheon or party in the couple's home.

Think simple elegance, followed by a great party. None of the couples I mentioned really had "colors" or elaborate decorations. Maybe a floral centerpiece for the buffet table, but that was about it.

The bride and her attendant did wear corsages or carry small bouquets. The groom and his attendant did wear bouts.

A vow renewal is not a "re-do" or "do-over" wedding.

But the first step is to contact a priest.  I am sure he will be most helpful.

I am commenting only on the vow renewals I have attended personally.  I am aware that there are other options . . . other ways to do this.  But I did enjoy the vow renewals I attended.

Answer 4

Why don't you have a destination wedding instead of one place or the other.  Do what you both really want, not what either of your family prefers.  I don't think it matters if you wait until the baby is older.  You would have to wait many years before it meant anything or the child would even remember when they are older.

Answer 5

Marriage is a very personal thing that is about you and your husband. Unless he is a strict Catholic, and I doubt he is considering your circumstances, then where you get married and what kind of ceremony you have is between the two of you. There should be no reason that you can't do it however you want to as long as the two of you agree on what you want. It doesn't have to be a church wedding even. It could be an outdoor ceremony on the beach, at a park, in the mountains, just about anywhere you want as long as you have permission from the land owners. People get married skydiving, scuba diving, mountain climbing, etc. There are no limits to what you can do. Do what makes you and your husband happy. If you want to include your child that's fine too. You can have her as part of the ceremony if you want to wait for a while until she is old enough. It depends on what you want to do. Just be happy! In the end that is all that matters. Good luck!

Answer 6

Forget it. Everything is back to front in today's world.