Marriage ended. He's seeing another woman. Can I start seeing some one now?

Question

marriage dead for a couple of years. I wanted to end it in Easter. he begged for another chance and to go to counselling. I did both.

Now he's met someone else & we are still living together while the house is being sold.

I feel naff (cos he ended it. I was happy to do so ages ago)

Naturally I feel naff, ugly and unloved.

Woudl you start dating again to make yourself feel better.

I am no longer in love with my hsuabd (soon 2 b ex)

Answer 1

if you guys are seperated (even though your living in the same house) and hes dating someone then go ahead and start dating too..

you both though should respect the others feelings and not bring your dates into the home you guys once shared..

addition...never date anyone to make yourself feel better..you need to feel better within yourself..

you date when youre ready to move on..

Answer 2

why wouldn't you? The marriage is dead. No point wasting your life pining away.

I say go for it as long as you both are concretely separated.

Answer 3

No doubt the marriage is dead by the sounds of it.  You do not have to start seeing someone just because he is.  He is showing no class at all, but that is him I suppose.  Both of you need some "quiet time" or a break, or what ever you want to call it.  There will be a lot of luggage brought into any relationship that either one of you start at this point in time.  You could think of the other person that you may drag into this sad situation, and wait before developing a relationship at all.  It is all up to you, but I would really think about it first, do you need another man in your life right now, do need any more stress, do you need the tension, and the hard feelings that could elevate into stronger dislike for the other...like I said, it is all up to you and what seeds you sow for your future.  

Answer 4

Don't just date to make yourself feel better. Rushing out dating whilst your husband soon to be ex, is in the same house will only make you feel worse.  May I suggest you join a gym or do something positive for yourself, to help you feel beautiful again.  It should come from within and not reliant on what someone else thinks.  When you do this then the men will be falling at your feet hehe

good luck

Answer 5

You could try it, but really, you need to dump all the mental bagage first.

If you don't love him anymore, then who cares if he is dating someone else? It problaly won't work out for him anyway. He didn't give himself enough space to get over you.Even if he thinks he did...

Set up your own home, and then GO For It Girl!

Answer 6

I don't know if dating right away is going to help. He is able to date again- but thats him. It may or may not work for you. I dont know . I do feel that you should stay strong and hold your head up high until you guys move out. You should start doing whatever it is you want to make yourself feel better. Shopping,going out.. and if its dating.. sure why not. Don't let him make you feel insecure or down about yourself. I'm sure you're a beautiful woman..  who just needs to get out of a bad situation. You will be FINE!

Answer 7

Hi Micheala

As a fallable person I like most would not be above Dating or similar to make myself better.

However because I can be objective in answering your question it sounds like you may be looking for a rebound.

In my opinion no real problem amoung consenting adults as long as you are honest as far as reasonable about your current situation.

When you are truely ready and find the right person you will know.

Again, Best Wishes to you.

Answer 8

Yes for a number of reasons. The first being you wanted to end it and HE begged for another chance. Next the fact that he's with someone else now (insert expletive at this point because HE begged you for another chance!!!). Finally, he's really dented your self-esteem and it would have been better if you had ended it when you originally wanted to. So, get yourself out there and have some fun. Life is too short to be lonely and miserable. Good luck :-)

Answer 9

Dating might actually make you feel worse.

People have a tendency to find themselves with the same person over and over again - same person, different name.  If you really want to get better, get counseling. Find out why you chose this particular man. Find out why you stayed as long as you did. Find out why you two are unwilling to move away from each other, but want to date others.  You have work to do on you, and if you don't do it, you will end up with the same type of man all over again.

Answer 10

I wouldnt date until I left the house but if you want to just dont bring anyone home I would move out asap

Answer 11

Honestly, no matter how long we were together, or if I loved him still or not, I couldn't date. Not right away. I would want to take time for myself. Sell the house, find a new place, and begin again.

I personally think he moving to fast. I find it hard to believe he is looking for another relationship so soon. Especially if he begged to try again. I think he is just looking for a sexual partner. Sorry.  

Answer 12

if you feel naff . ugly and unloved the only thing you re gonna portrait is that person . so please gain your confidence and self estem  back before you start dating again other wise you will meet losers who will only think of you the way yourself do . dont date because he is dating . take your time .  

Answer 13

You can but only if you're definitely ready.