Married 3 years, 3 kids.. why is it still uncomfortable?

Question

My husband and I are happily married.. just hit our 3 year mark. We have 3 ADORABLE small children.. the question? For what reason would intercourse still be uncomfortable/painful? To me it just doesn't make sense. The first few times.. yeah ok I understand that, but we are WELL past our first few times. A little embarrassed to go to the doc and I don't even know which doc I should see.. an OB? Husband feels badly because he thinks it's him and frankly, I don't think it is, but I don't know. Only mature people answer please.

Answer 1

i would def. go to the doctor.

and try using ky warming senstion jelly.

i use it.

and it makes it not hurt.

because i have the same problem.

Answer 2

well i think you are too worried about it and its all in your head, people make themselves sick just by believeing that they are.

if you really love this man its not a problem.. but if only happens w/ him it may be a problem..

good luck :)

Answer 3

Yes, you would see your OB. Maybe it can be his size? Or the different positions. Does it hurt more in certin positions than others?

Answer 4

Well.. How big is he?

Answer 5

There's a condition called vaginismus. It's when the muscles in your v****a contract too tightly when you attempt intercourse. Here's more info on it: http://www.vaginismus.com/faqs/vaginismu...

If intercourse has always been uncomfortable or painful, this could be a possibility. A close friend of mine seemed to have a mild case of it. Go to an OB/GYN and get checked out for a definite answer.

Answer 6

Logically speaking, something is definitely wrong.  His p***s just could not be that large.  Either you are not wet enough or some scar tissue or nerve has shifted during the last delivery.

I will assume you had a Vaginal birth.  I will also assume that you tore.  If you did, the scar tissue could be hitting a nerve.

next time you have s*x, try using Ambusol.  If this helps, something is wrong. Go see your OBGYN.

It is far better to investigate this than to have painful s*x.  Marriage is painful enough.

Answer 7

3 kids in 3 years - that could have caused some wear and tear on you!  Have you had an exam recently?  There could be scar tissue or lesions - a host of possibilities.  Where is your pain?  Make an appointment with your ob/gyn.  Good luck!

Answer 8

There could be several medical reasons.  This is not normal.  Please go to a gyn!!!  Good luck!

Answer 9

iam thinking ur not into it or something u gotta relax and get into the s*x scene. its kinda like a pap test they tell u to relax because if u tense up it gets painful . if that doesnt work go see the doc mabe theres something wrong..

Answer 10

pain can happen with endrimetriosis it can also happen if after the children you need a dnc go your gp he will direct you to the right doc (usually a gynae)