Married and controlling wife?

Question

Ok, you have all read my past post and i want to say thanks for the replys back .i have tried so hard to meet my wife half way and work out or problems but she keeps finding more new issues. All that i have done she seems to dont reconize or say anythibg good. I do beleive she wants out now. I told her to make a decistion and lets get the ball rolling. We have a home and kids and alot more to deal with. My wife has cheated on me several times but i seem to be the one who is asking for forgivnes. I know that was the past but i have allways been the easy one. I have asked here what she wants to do , to get conseling with me or what she wants to happen or her desistion but all she does is complain about what she is unhappy about with me and wont talk about anything we can do or that she wants to do. I told her i will need to do what i need to now because she wont talk or tell me whats up. I am going to stop my auto deposit from my work checks and start seeking a lawer,s advice and service. When i try to hug her or touch her, she pushes me backs away like i am some creep. I guess its over but life goes on. It,s the family that wil be broken and the home sold and all that is ahead of us. I have to have my life back and do what makes me happy, like having a cold beer if i like or a good smoke and a glass of wine or my music on and so on. I love life and i am very happy but my wife is blamming her unhappness on her husband. I treat her good, back rubs, breakfast in the morning, hair brushes, work hard, you name it.............

Why is it that the good guys allways finish last and my wife loves men that cheat on there wifes and that do nothing for her? I try to spend time being her frien and lover and family man but she has no desire. She is mad i think because she does not want to see the home but cant keep it ither on one income. She wont talk to me but when it comes to money, if we are short on cash, she is talking right away and complaining.

????????????????????????????????/ any suggestions..............

Answer 1

sounds like you are on the right path.. she wants a divorce but knows that if she files there is a greater chance she will have to pay for it.. she likes the fact she can make you dance for her.. Go forward with the divorce

Answer 2

I don't remember seeing any of your older posts but I might have, but what you have said so far I in no way see your wife as controlling, of course it is real hard to get all the facts without making the post go on and on....

Believe me your wife is not finding new issues to complain about but issues that have been there for a long time... If she is complaining of all the things she is unhappy with you about then don't you understand these are the things she feels needs to be changed so she can be happy! Also many men feel that if they do all these nice things that they are doing the things the wife likes and that is not always the case...

I can see if she is not talking to you about these things then it makes it real hard to know what nice things to do and what nice things not to do...It all boils down to how you feel if she isn't willing to work with you on this then maybe she has just given up and maybe it is time to move on.. I am not saying you haven't met your wife half way on working things out but many times men just believe they have when they haven't even come close...

Just some things to think about....