Married and having s*x problems....?

Question

i love my husband and is very attracted to him. and i always want to be intimate with him... but sometimes, he does little things while we are having s*x that i dont like.. i dont know if im over reacting, but i never had this problem before with other men...

and i dont want him to think that i dont like the way it feels, cause its not that. like i said its just little things that bother me, what should i do??

Answer 1

You don't really say what kind of things he's doing that you don't like.  I would suggest that you give him some subtle direction without bruising his ego.  We are all vulnerable when we're naked-even with the ones we love.  

You might try something like this...

"honey, I think it would really turn me on if you did (describe something you like that he does) instead of doing (whatever it is that bothers you).  You might whisper it in your most s**y voice.  Unless you give him some indication, he might think that what he is doing is ok and will continue.

Answer 2

I think that if you guys are completely comfortable with each other then you should be able to tell him what bothers you.  I would my guy, like telling him he needs to drink his saliva before I make out with him because I am not thirsty.  You know....little things

Answer 3

well what are they,,? i know,just asked.tell him that you dont like it,that ought to do it,

Answer 4

talk to him about seeing a s*x therapist, tell him what the problem is that you don't like, you did not tell what it was about s*x with him that you don't like for me to help other than see a s*x therapist

Answer 5

Teach him what you like! You can show him what you like,the way you like it and how much of it you want. You see! If you teach a man what you like, then he will stop what you don't like and no feelings are hurt. Alot of men do like for their woman to do such things, and you may find it fun for yourself too.

Answer 6

tell him in a nice way when the time is right

Answer 7

what are the little things he do?

Answer 8

What kinds of things is he doing?  Talking to a pal on the phone, eating peanuts in bed, yelling someone elses name??  Tell him what you do like.  Make it sound encouraging and ask him what turns him on.  When he tell you, share your likes with him.  

Answer 9

The sexiest thing ever is open communication between two consenting adults.

You will work it out. If you are too embarassed to say it, draw a picture of it.

If he doesn't react well, file for divorce. s*x is a major part of marriage, but not #1.

You should both be comfortable.

Answer 10

Talk to him about it. I wouldn't call them problems not to make the issue bigger than it is.

Answer 11

Apperently you've chosen to tell us and not him, cuz you're uncomfortable with telling hime, or afraid how he might react.  Understood.

So, dress up really s**y, heels and everything.  Go out on a date, get him all horny, and just before s*x tell him, that you'd like for him to not do - - - -  (what ever it is that you don't like).  In the heat of the moment, and seeing how s*x you're looking, there's no way he would object to your concern, and would rather co-operate with you so he can go on with his s*x...  And make sure he has a real good time that day, so he'll remember it wasn't bad.  It was rather good that he listened to you.  

This way he's happy, and you've surely achieved your goal as well...

(I should just write advice books...hee..hee.)

Answer 12

Best thing is to talk it over. If my girl felt that way I would definitely want to know so that I can accommodate my baby, because I love her. Now if your husband loves you I'm sure he would want to know so that you CAN hat that intimacy with him, I'm pretty sure after talking with him, just by that he will feel closer to you, and he will do what it takes to please his woman. GOOD LUCK ;)

Answer 13

There is no great way to ask that question.  You either end up giving too much information or not enough to receive a good answer.  In this case, there isn't enough information.

You might start by enthusiastically telling him about what you do like so that he is encouraged to do those things.  A little negative criticism goes a long way in the bedroom, and too much focus on the things you don't like might lead to focus on the things he doesn't like.  Be mentally prepared for that.  

Answer 14

since we do not the things he does to you

how are we going to solve the problem

Answer 15

tell him.  You could also ask him if there's anything you do, or dont do that bothers him!

Answer 16

just talk to him about it and be honest. and maybe you can explain to him the things you do like. or you guys can talk about trying different stuff to spice things up to intrege him from not doing the stuff you dont like. (toys, role playing, 3somes) have fun : )

Answer 17

Tell him not us

Answer 18

If you don't tell him, how can he ever please you? Communication is very important in a relationship. Don't worry about hurting his feelings, he needs to know what you like and don't like.

Answer 19

u fellow ur husband what he wantwhich type of s*x he like

Answer 20

be his teacher

Answer 21

I'd come out and tell him it makes you feel a little weird when he does certain things. You can balance it out by telling him what he does right.

I always appreciate it when my girlfriends are open with me about what they like / don't like, and I try to let them know also.

It might help if you get him on the topic of what he likes, and wait for him to ask you what your thoughts are. Then you can bring it up a little more comfortably than if you just randomly popped it on him :p

Good luck!

Answer 22

Just tell him. He won't be as upset as you think he'll be. Especially if the alternative is this pent up dissatisfaction on your part. Even if he reacts negatively to you telling him, he'll eventually realize it's for the best. There's no reason why you should have to hide this from him.