Married but couldnt have s*x yet :*(?

Question

I'am married for 1,5 years. We couldnt have s*x yet, because of vaginismus problem of my wife. She is still virgin. :(

Are there anyone who had that problem before? We dont want to talk with any doctor. We will try to solve it ourself . What can we do?

Answer 1

Wow. Sucks for you.  

Answer 2

vaginismus problem?

WTF?

Your being SNOWED buddy!  S N O W E D !!!

Answer 3

Dude.. your wife is hiding something...maybe she is afraid of having s*x or something else is wrong.. but refusing to see a Dr.. I agree you are being snowed.  Go to a DR and go with her.. it's the only way you will find out the truth.  Good luck

Answer 4

There are a lot of women who have this disorder.  However, how do you even know that she has it if she hasn't been clinically diagnosed by a physician?

Ultimately, she WILL have to see a doctor about the condition.  It may NOT be vaginismus - they will check her for physical abnormalities and in many cases, discuss her background to determine where the vaginismus originated, if that's what they determine she has.

However, in the meantime, you can order a set of dilators from www.vaginismus.com.  Make sure you get the set with the full instructions.

Answer 5

Well i had to do some looking but it looks like they have a treatment kit that you can get for her. here is the link

http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-tre...

it has an overview of the steps that are involved in helping treat it, and says that it is a treatable thing.

I would suggest getting that, so you can finally consumate your marriage.

Answer 6

found some info about this and from what I just read it may be more due to a psychological problem than anything else.  What i mean is the problem she is having is a side effect from a psychological problem.  In any case she really does need to see a doctor or at least a therapist even though this is something she may be embarrassed about.  Try looking it up on the web.  Below is a web page just to get you started.  Good luck and I hope she is able to over come it soon.  From what I read, this is 100% treatable.

http://www.ehow.com/how_2292547_treat-va...

Answer 7

I know what you can do... get a bucket of lube and go to town. Or stick it in her butt.

Answer 8

Try masturbation with no penetration, then start small and gradually increase size until you can dilate her pc muscles when she's aroused...also this question may be better answered in women's health or even psychology.  

Answer 9

Go to the link below and read... Lots of info there.

Answer 10

Wow, I am very sorry to hear that your wife has this. I went to the link below and it offers very useful information on what may have caused it and ways to treat it. Good luck!

Answer 11

Unless she is giving you plenty of oral you are in a bad shape.

Clearly you wife is not interested in s*x or else she would aggressively deal with this. Until that happens, I strongly recommend that you engage is anal s*x. There is nothing back there. After one or two trips down the hershey highway, you will be amazed how quickly she gets that ot vaginismus looked after!

Answer 12

See does need to see a doctor.

To make sure she really has this condition. How does she know she has it?

Well you need to have s*x, it is an important part of marriage.  

Answer 13

Yeah, it's always a great idea NOT to see a doctor when you're experiencing medical problems. Next time I have a major medical problem that keeps me from living a normal life, I'm going to "solve it myself." You know, cause why would I consult someone who's an expert when I could use my own complete lack of medical knowledge to fix my problem?

Ok, now that I'm done with my sarcasm - YOU NEED TO SEE A DOCTOR ABOUT THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

My guess is - your wife is lying to you because she doesn't want to have s*x, which is probably why she refuses to go to a doctor - he'd know she was lying.

Answer 14

umm, you can't solve it yourself.  obviously  not, as you havent done such a good job of it in 1.5 years of marriage.  you need to have a serious talk with your wife and a medical consultation needs to happen.  do you want to live in a sexless marriage?  that is where you are heading if you allow this to continue.  i'm not saying that your wife is lying or anything like that...but you'd better work the problem before your sexual frustration kicks in and you have other issues.