Married cheaters - why?

Question

Why do you stay married if you want to cheat?

Answer 1

I love my wife very much, I really realy do, she is a great woman. I honestly mean that.

But seriously, if she doesn't at least make SOME effort to help improve our s*x life and start putting out sometime soon, I'll be forced to get that love and affection elswear. I've done everything I can, with no luck, and nor positive results. It's up to HER now t oget checked out medically, change her medications, whatever. It's been way too long (and I don't mean 1 week, I'm talking 2- 3 months, I stopped keeping track after so long) And she makes NO effort to satistfy me, and if I try to talk about it? Oh forget it, just gets her angry.

It's getting really frustrating, and you know what, my eyes have been wandering more and more as the time goes on....I never wanted to be a cheater, I still don't want to, but I'll be completely honest with you....I can't predict what might happen if I'm hit on or connect with another woman right now.

Talking solves nothing, I've tried it. Romance, does nothing but get me a "Thank you, you're sweet." She can sit on her bum all day and I'll do all the chores, Dinner is made for her every single night for her by me, when she walks in the door, and I don't mean Ramen soup and boxed maccaroni, She has plenty of space. She cuddles up with me, and then gets pissed at me when all I want is a nice deep kiss. And therapy? She says she'll go but doesn't believe she has a problem.

What more can I do?

Answer 2

because they think they can get away with it..... they are too scared to come out and say they can't be faithful so they try to hide it and usually are dumb and get caught

Answer 3

Do you know how much it costs to get divorced?  

Answer 4

Because s*x with other humans is pleasurable.

Answer 5

Because I dont want to lose my family, i just want some strange.

Answer 6

It's called having your cake and eating it too.

That is until you become exposed. Ever see anyone NOT sorry they were caught?

Answer 7

Because of the thrill they get ...the rush they feel and the superficial high they're on when they are  in the "Cheating Zone"

They just don't want that buzz every day.

Answer 8

Because they are selfish and think about nothing but themselves and their own needs and wants.  

Answer 9

Because the other partner is so in love with you you can get away with it.  Of course you also have to have very little love for your partner in return and very low self esteem that you need to do such a thing to feel better about your self at the expensive of a person that is in love with you.

Answer 10

Because they have no respect for the other person.  It could be reasons keeping them into the relationship other than love like children or something.  Its horrible yes, but some people are evil..

Answer 11

biology.

Answer 12

Isn't it obvious?  The kids, the house and the bills.  These marriages aren't so much about love as they are about business.

Answer 13

I am not sure.  i am glad that someone else finds it wrong and mean.  I feel you should leave the person your with if you feel you need to cheat, after all when you cheat you have all ready broken the relationship, it is a very selfish person that wants to play and then wants the person they were with too.  

Answer 14

Because if they weren't married then they would have no one to cheat on and that would not be as fun.  

Answer 15

It is called being a coward.    

Answer 16

Children.  Money.  Status.  Power.  Why does Bill Clinton stay with Hillary, and why doesn't Hillary kick him out?  He's been cheating on her - PUBLICLY - for more than 20 years.

There are a lot of reasons why cheaters stay married.

Answer 17

I dont know...it sucks...this was very hard for me to do...I still cry everyday after a yr but I am getting stronger...but she had to go...filed for divorce...bought her out of the house and got custody of the kids...yeah its hard but I cant deal wiht that. Trust is gone forever...especially after 12 years...looking at all you have and throwing it out.....for pleasure...yeah that says a lot to me.

Answer 18

because you want to have your cake and eat it  

Answer 19

from a guy's perspective, you can have s*x with a woman you dont love and dont intend on staying with so what does cheating have to do with staying married?  

i like to stay in a nice hotel once in a while but i also look forward to returning to my own bed.  

Answer 20

i personally would never cheat on my fiance so i was kinda wondering the same thing