Married couples with no kids (yet), please answer...?

Question

I'd like to know for HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN MARRIED? and why have you decided to wait on the kids? I'd just like some encouragement. I've been married for 3 years and I feel like I want a kid, but we have to wait due to different reasons (husband not ready, buying a house a soon, just settling down as a couple, and love spending time together) so I want to hear your experience on WHY IS BETTER TO WAIT and the benefits you've got. That'll make me really happy!

Thanx for sharing!

Answer 1

when i got married we were very young 17 and 21 .My husband was in the military.  We both went to college part-time and had fulltime jobs.

We did a lot of "couple " things concerts/ trips/ parties/road trips/

We enjoyed being young and not having the responsibilities of children.

We enjoyed knowing each other. Ten years later we had a wonderful

daughter. So..it is never enough money to have a baby..it is smart

to know your mate and saving is NOT a bad thing.

Answer 2

We have been married for almost 3 years. We got married at ages 22 and 23. We decided to wait on having kids to buy a house and finish graduate school. We're both done and agreed that we'd like to start a family now. We are 25 and 26 now. We did enjoy each other and having lots of time together. We just got to a point where we felt we wanted to expand our family. You are still young so you have time for children. Do what you want now because when you have kids, your life will change and free time is nonexistent!

Answer 3

I was 21 and the wife was 18 when we got married, we already had our place and we had a kid about 1 1/2 yrs later. normally we used protection. But at that time i was not worried getting her pregnant. Cause I was ready to be a daddy. being 27 is a good age you. don't want to wait to long because that means you be a lot older when your kids get out of the house and not be able to enjoy life when you get older. That like I got a daughter right now that's 15 and a boy will be 12 in a few months. when he is 18 and the daughter will turning 22 I will be 45 and the wife will be 42. We can enjoy our life while we are still young. Say you wait for a few more years your kids could still be at home when your 50. do you really want that?  I want to be still enough to enjoy life after kids. I love my kids with all my heart and would do it all over again. But don't wait to long,

Answer 4

u should wait a few years after ur married before having children. u need to enjoy this time as a newly married couple alone first. traVEL, GO OUT, WAKE UP LATE ON UR DAYS OFFF, ETC. THE POINT IS ONCE U HAVE KIDS THAT FREE TIME IS OVER AND UR WHOLE LIFE REVOLVES AROUND AVING CHILDREN.

Answer 5

I am 21 years old and my husband is 20. We just got married this past Valentines Day and our reason for waiting is that we are just not ready. Financially and we want to spend time together. He is just graduating Accounting school and I am going back to school for Occupational Therapy which is like 5 years in school. We just want to get our lives all set and when we have a house, money and have let our marriage grow to be soon to be great parents. Then we will try it out. Probably when I am around 25 we will start or when we get a house and settle down in the house. You  are doing a good thing with waiting till you are ready. I do want kids and some days I see some mom with a little girl and I just have that yearning for a baby. BUT that day will come one day. Just not yet. My husband and I are enjoying our selfs and we are having fun as a married couple since we are so young. I see so many couples that have kids and then get married and they are miserable with eachother because they didn't have a chance to enjoy each other's company. When you have kids it is all about the family and you won't be able to do a lot with each other unless you make the time with a babysitter lol.. Good luck and don't rush having kids :)

Answer 6

My husband and I have been married only 3 months, but we've agreed to wait a few years before we start trying to have children.  

Mostly the reasons have to do with just wanting to spend time being a young married couple, doing the things that we want to do and not having so much responsibility so early on.  We're both 22, and we know we still have plenty of years ahead of us where children are possible (as do you).  It's fine to say that you just enjoy being a couple and want it to be "just us" for a few years.  I don't see anything wrong with that.

Not to mention, when you do have children you will do so for the right reasons, with a home that you are settled into, with years of working experience and professional acheivements.

We both sort of got the itch to have children a while ago.  We got a cat, and that worked wonders. Now we both have somewhere to put our nurturing, parenting impulses, without the worrying, responsibility and stress that parenthood brings.

Answer 7

the time will be right for you when it comes around

don't have children for the sake of having children as this will not save or help a marriage

plan and plan again to make sure you are ready mentally and financially  

Answer 8

Well me and my husband point blank just are not ready. We want to have a solid foundation prepared as far a finance. Plus we just got married in may of this year and I am still gaining knowledge about the military. He is deployed and I just want to be in the know when my child is born. I want to be able to provide for my child and not be stressed out if my hubby is ever gone again and we have a child. We are still getting to know each other and we want to travel and see the world. Not that we could not do that with a child but we just need some time to ourselves before a child comes into the picture.

Answer 9

Im 28, my husband is 30 yrs old.  We have decided to wait cuz we want to enjoy each other.  Traveling has been our dream.  We have realized that in today's economy no matter that age, we all depend on our parents for something.  So we figure there is no rush, cuz once u have kids they are with you for life.  We enjoy our independence and being able to pick-up and go without packing a baby bag or finding a sitter.  Freedom...i guess.  

Answer 10

Statistically the couples that wait a few years after being married to have children tend to be more likely to survive. Having children is very stressful and can be very hard on a marriage, especially the teenage years. Childrearing is among the top three reasons for divorce. So waiting gives you and your honey (and future kids) better odds. That being said, don't wait until you aren't physically capable. You're only 27 so I'd say you've got a while. Just keep working on the hubby here and there.  

Answer 11

Believe me you will never be finacially ready for kids

Linda

Answer 12

I waited 8 years with first wife...wanted kids real bad...but she did not. Re-married and have 3 now. There is no "right time"...there's always a bunch of things happening in life...The most important thing is that you both want kids at the same time...if one of you is holding back...that will put pressure and create possible issues between you...Take Care

Answer 13

We have been married 5 years.  We have waited for a lot of reasons.  We like the freedom we have without children; we don't feel ready; my husband is building a business and doesn't have a lot of extra time.

We are both 30 and most of our friends have children and wonder why we don't.  We get a lot of "so when are you going to have kids."  I like things the way they are.  I had always thought that I wanted children but the older I get the more I feel myself changing my mind.  My husband is the same way.

Answer 14

Its better to wait to have children because you first have to learn to live together as husband and wife before you become Mom and Dad. The first few years are most critical to your marriage. I think its wonderful if two people can wait until they have a home and are secure enough to welcome a child into their home. Wisdom come with age. My daughter waited close to 5 years before having a child. I think that was a very good ideal.

Answer 15

How old are you?  If you are close to the high risk age, you need to hurry up and have kids.  However, spend some time with your husband.  The older you are the more prepared you are for children.  Until you get too old.  You don't rush, but don't wait too long.