Married/divorced guys only: Have you ever gotten jealous in an open marriage?

Question

Did you think you could handle it? What changed?

Answer 1

So basically these people are married, yet living the single life. Never understood the point of taking vows and all that if you aren't planning on following any of them. Monogamy was meant for us, that's why we have more will power over lustful thoughts and feelings. If you want to have a single type life in a marriage, please do marriage a favor and avoid it. It really just drags it through the mud.  

Answer 2

Of course yes. Sometimes everybody has this feeling.  

Answer 3

What is the point in even getting married if you're going to be sleeping around? Neither my husband nor myself slept around before we got married, therefore we wouldn't sleep around now that we're married either.  

Answer 4

no sorry, my husband only puts his p***s inside of me!

Answer 5

We've never had any real problems with it. If someone is starting to feel jealous, we talk it out. But that rarely happens. We love each other completely, can't stand monogamy, and don't have insecurity issues.

Answer 6

I dont share d**k...ever

Answer 7

I am married not divorced and certainly not a guy but allow me to try to assist you......In a situation such as an open marriage, one may think they would be totally cool with it until of course they are right in the middle of sharing their significant other sexually with someone else.

Feelings are simply feelings and jealousy is one that as humans we all experience. If you have been okay for a while and all of a sudden feel jealousy, it could be that the newness has worn off and what is reality has set in. It could be a certain person that your spouse has been with that makes you uncomfortable. There could be a number of reasons why you feel as you do.

One thing to remember is that your primary relationship should come first and your activities should be fun and exciting for you both. If at this point you are not having fun you need to discuss this with your spouse and compromise on changes that can be made.

Don't feel bad or that you may be putting a halt to the excitement, simply take a little break and regroup.

If you no longer want an open marriage, be honest and communicate your genuine feelings with your spouse.

I hope this helps!

Ginni