Married for One (1) month!!!?

Question

Well we both did s*x but i am not sure about her haymen-virgin is torned off or not yet?

But last night we had a small fight and my wife told me that, up to now i have not touched her properly!!

can anyone please help me or advice me what does she meant by saying that, "i have not touched her properly" and i will aprreciate if you all have ideas on good bed night romance & s*x.

Answer 1

Seriously?

You did s*x?

Answer 2

I am so confused, I really don't understand.

Answer 3

I agree with most of what is being said here.  The rating should also give you an idea.

Communication is the key.  I mean clear, unashamed honest communication.

Other than getting some 'technical' help.  I would suggest that you don't focus on ANY technical merrit at all !  s*x is an expression which is raw, honest & liberating.  It is a journey of sharing not a mean to an end.  It is about connection.

Try being natural and open.  Let your body guide you, see where you hand wants to go, where each part of your body wants to go, in fact !  You would be surprise how it comes naturally.  Take it slow and you can ask her what she wants, is this how she likes it etc.  You can also guide her hands to touch you where & how you want !?  Soon she would be doingthe same.

Talk a little first, but bare this in mind .....  Women don't like to have to tell exactly how & where she wants it as it kind of lessen the experience of that very moment!  It takes time to really really get to know each other heart, mind & body !

Answer 4

Lol.. I think she means that you're being too 'goody goody' during s*x. She wants you to be manly and perverse to make her feel like a woman. Initiate s*x by touching her in ways you wouldn't normally do. Try rough s*x?

Answer 5

lol, that is an interesting way of putting. I'm not sure what she means by that either and she maybe the only one who does. I think you should go back to the source and ask her what she meant. Or the next time you guys are being intimate ask her what feels good and what doesn't. That maybe easier for you and her.

Answer 6

Some women don't have hyman that break or tear.

Its is not the be all and end all of s*x and virginity so don't about it.

But if you were both virgins when you got married, then well, you are both really c**p at s*x. s*x is like any sport, you need to practice and try new things to start getting it right .

Have more s*x, try new things and have fun.

Good luck  

Answer 7

You need to go to her and pound your point across... Give her the salami. Lay some cable. etc....

Answer 8

You need to talk to her about how you touch her and find out what she likes.

Be patient about the intimacy. Maybe she wanted you to be a little gentle and watch her respond to you. It will take some time.

Answer 9

Somehow I suspect that English is not your first language and you possibly live in a culture which is quite repressed sexually? India, perhaps?

The state of your wife's hymen is not a major concern. It is possible for a virgin to have a torn hymen. It is also possible for a woman to have had penetrative s*x and for her hymen to be undamaged. About the only things which are definite about the hymen is that it is normally there when a girl is born and that vaginal childbirth will make sure it's no longer there.

It's not at all clear what your wife meant when she said you have not yet touched her properly. Is it possible that she means she has not yet had an o****m during s*x with you? If so, that could be mainly your fault. It could also be mainly her fault. There's no way for us to tell you if you, your wife or both of you are doing things wrong (or doing things at all, for that matter).

If it is at all possible, you need to talk to your wife about what exactly she meant. If you do not start talking to her about this sort of thing now, when will you? I believe that the best marriages are built on honesty, trusting that the other person will be open with you when they feel things are not going well and being willing to try to work on any problems that arise.

Your wife took the first step - although you might have found it confusing and painful - when she told you that she thinks something is not right with your physical relationship. I suggest you now need to take the next step and, with kindness and love, ask her to talk to you about what she needs from you in physical terms and what she feels she can give to you.

There is never a magic formula for this. Nobody here is going to be able to tell you how to make your intimate relationship with your wife work. This is a path that you and she working together have to find for yourselves.

Answer 10

Rent some p**n, that will give you some ideas.

Answer 11

Oh my Freaking God!

LMFAO!!!

Answer 12

Are you serious??

Get "s*x For Dummies" at your local bookstore. Or, ask your wife what she wants.  

Answer 13

Valerie X, girl, you got me cracking up over here.... you are sooo wrong, LMBAO!

Vipe, I can't be your daddy son. Either you know how to hit it or you don't, trust me, sonner or later, someone is going to teach you how to TOUCH her the right way.

h**l yeah, he made me laugh out loud. Mfker talking about tearing off the haymen, sheeeeiiiiittttt, I'm laughing right now!

Answer 14

Go home and ask your wife what she meant by that comment. It could be that you are not satisfying her. Maybe had more foreplay, oral s*x etc... Ask her what she wants and take your time and learn to please her and ask her to do the same to you. You have been given the opportunity to enjoy each other, learn to do it well.

Answer 15

Well she should be telling you what she likes and dislikes...There are so many books on that, check em out...

Answer 16

Go to borders or half priced books and read up on s*x! Read about the womens v****a! I learned from books and p**n!