Married men did you change for your woman after getting married or stayed the same..? Or change before it..?

Question

Ok, my woman accepts for who I am & what personalities I have & all my flaws. But my question is does the field change after you get married.........?

Married men or Engaged men only answer..?

Women- what would please you the most..? The men changing for you or staying the same!

Answer 1

ice box... nooooooooooo! why do you do that?... my fiance also leaves kitchen cabinets open... he is the only person i know who does this, I do not understand it!.. it makes an otherwise clean kitchen look so darn messy! ... After 12 years you haven't changed, you know, its not an impossible thing your wife is asking for... My fiance has started to close them, come to think of it I should really ask him why ... but we all have our quirks, he whines every day that i use his brush and don't "empty" my hair from it ;) ... so he started leaving the hair in the sink in the morning lol...

So umm yah, no you shouldn't be expected to change just because you're married. It will not kill your inner spirit, you will not die a little inside every day, and your future wife will not let herself go just because she is married... It irks me that some guys have those presumptions. I think since my fiance and I got together we're both better people for it... financially responsible, cook healthier, etc. ... Like others have said, life around you may change, but not like your whole personality will uproot iself. ... unless you're whipped but that's a whole other story ;)

Answer 2

I don't think it is about each person changing individually, it is about each other changing together as a couple and doing what is best for each other as a family. That takes a whole lot of give and take and both people are bound to change in some ways to better the family and grow in the relationship! The part of it is is not feelings like your doing it intentionally or feeling like it is a burden to do but something rather that you want to do. Just my thoughts!

Answer 3

i don't think i'd marry someone i had a list of things i wanted him to change... over the years me and my bf have both influenced changes in each other... some on purpose that we wanted to change, and some things that just change when your around a person that much...

he eats a lot healthier that's for sure :) major change haha

Answer 4

I don't think we necessarily change of our own free will as much as life changes us.  The biggest thing for me was that I quit my job managing a night club and took a daytime office job.  My wife is an accountant and I didn't want us working opposite hours and never seeing each other.  But then as life goes on, you buy a house, you have kids, etc.  You adapt to the situations as they arrive, but your basic personality stays the same.  After 12 years, I still don't communicate as well as she would like and she still won't shut the f**king cabinet doors in the kitchen or turn out a light when she leaves a room.:)

Answer 5

Well I obviously wouldnt want him to change for the worst, but he could stand a couple minor tweaks for the good lol (like his temper)

Answer 6

I love him like he is.

If HE wanted to change something about himself, for self improvement purposes, I'd be fine with that.

I didn't find a man I thought I could MAKE what I wanted, I found a man I WANTED.

Trying to get a man to change is pointless. They will just wind up resenting you.

Trying to change someone isn't love - it's wishful thinking.

Answer 7

Me and my husband did not live together before we got married so things did change.  And not that he wants me to change or I want him to change but it was combining to house holds together.  Like when I would spend weekends in his house he would not have dirty gym clothes on the end of the bed so he did not know I hate that.  So when he started doing that in our home I put a stop to it and not out of being mean its just me.  And when he stayed at my house for weekends I did not have every curling iron out all over the bathroom so he says the clutter bothers him so I stop doing it.  Not because he made me do it but because I know it is give and take I give a little and he does the same.  I think once people male or female understand you can't ask someone to change in any way if you are not willing to do the same things will never work smoothly.