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Question

Hello Me and my wife our very unhappy in our marriage. This month is our 1st month anniversary. Is being unhappy in a marriage normal? Is this a stage of marriage?

Answer 1

Being unhappy in a marriage is normal, even after one month. What's important is that you figure out if the unhappiness is with yourself or with your partner. If it's the latter, you have to talk about it. There is no shame in divorce and it's much easier (and forgivable) to do it before you have children.

Answer 2

i think it depends on the couple..honestly, if you're only one month in and you can already say that you and your wife are VERY unhappy, then  how much better do you think it's going to get?? Sure, you can listen to the people who say that "the first year of marriage is always hard," but for me and my husband, the first year was just as good and happy as the second and third. Before you talk to your wife, you need to ask yourself what's gone wrong this soon in your marriage?? Then you should talk to her and tell her what's making you so unhappy and ask her why SHE is unhappy..then you work on it from there.

Good luck!!

-Amanda

Answer 3

no it is not although there will be times that you will be unhappy, but of course there are times that you will be really happy. If you focus on the things that are making you unhappy obviously they will become more glaringly obvious and you will also become more unhappy. Solution? communication. Talk about what is making you unhappy and make sure you focus also on the things that are making you happy as well and make them more prevalent in your relationship. Be positive managers in the relationship. Mention what is great, talk about what you would really like to improve on and finish with what is great. You are growing together so make sure you are working together to get the positive outcomes that you need to make the relationship wholesome for both of you. All the best with it.  

Answer 4

If this is the beginning, then what is there to look forward too?  What was the foundation of your marriage, why did the two of you want to be together "forever"?  Look back and analyze this list and hopefully, you will find out if you need to separate or not.  There could be an annulment if it's this early in the marriage if it's decided to be a mistake.

Answer 5

It is a time of adjustment.  There are going to be times that you become discontent, because of the changes that are occurring in your life.   Just chalk it up to learning about each other, and try to communicate instead of holding it in.

the key to a good marriage is always communicating openly and honestly.

Answer 6

You should be asking your wife this question.  There is almost nothing anyone can say in this forum except you must learn to communicate every inch of your being to each other.  If you can not then this is not phase but a virus.  

Goto your wife tell her what your feeling, ask her if what she is feeling and work out how to feel better.  Maybe you need to do something together, maybe there is something you two need time to think about.

Good Luck

and go communicate

Answer 7

The first year is always hard.  People try to make it out like you should be blissful, and naked all the time and the fireworks are always exploding.  Marriage is an adjustment.  Talk ALOT , and listen more.  You have to figure out the ins and outs of each other.  I hate to think you are a month into this and VERY UNHAPPY, but discontent is normal.  Good Luck to you