Married saudis, when did you feel like your wife became your sister, or your husband became your brother?

Question

does the 7 years itch apply in saudi arabia?

Answer 1

looooooooooool...swear to God i had to wait a couple of minutes so i can stop laughing and answer this...

i've been married for 8 years now so i just crossed your 7 years limit...anyway, my husband and i are both saudi and we have two kids...a boy and a girl...let me tell ya this: you don't actually start enjoying married life until after the 5th year...yup, the first couple of years are filled with arguments and clashes of both backgrounds and personalities....we're two different independent individuals with different experiences, culture and all (even if we're from the same city, it differs from family to family you know) and, if the engagement period is not long as it was in my case, you still have a lot of those little details and angles of the spouses personality, habits and stuff to get used to and accept...it takes time to adjust and adapt to sharing everything...from the bed spread and who gets which side to the money you work hard to make at your job and what to spend it on. he wants kids, i want a career...etc etc...once all that get sorted, it kind of gets much easier...yes you'll still have to agree on how to raise the kids and where to go in summer and all that...but the foundations would already have been set in those crucial first years....and the romance grows as the relationship matures and age.

from my observation of family and friends...most don't go into this "sibling" symptoms you are refering to until much later (as in after 25-30 years of marriage)..if ever...

i guess we subconciously keep the "dull" away....we keep injecting our relationships with all sorts of things...from sharing thoughts about a local event, discussing a book, learning a new skill or picking up a new hobby to keeping fit and taking care of how we look and changing scenes once in a while by spending a weekend at the beach or a week in kenya and the summer in germany...might seem simple and small...trust me, all these small stuff add value and keep individuals in the family not only the couple interested in each other...wither they enjoy doing these things together or keep some of them an individual activity (solitary or with friends)they share talking about later on...routine kills. and if the couple only meet each day over lunch while nagging or complaining about the long day they just had or infront of the tv or computer still and silent as a statue then how do we expect them to enjoy each other...

i don't deny that at times i felt like i'm sophicating and that i'm tied up and being pulled down and held back by my husband...that i wanted to cut lose and just run away like a maniac....it's normal, stress, responsibilities and problems we have no control over gets to us sometimes...we're human you know...i have the right to yell and scream and blow up and isolate my self from him once in a blue moon...i calm down and come back to connect..and everything goes back to normal...he knows that...and when he does it i know he just needs to let it out and who better to absorb the rage and anxiety than me...his wife, friend, his rock?

i guess some people take longer to realize all these things and walk right into the 7 year itch unaware they could simply avoid it..for good...

i know you assumed all married couple goes through this...but i guess i'm an exception...

lol @ just me....

Answer 2

I hope you mean...comfort level...like when did you become completely comfortable with your spouse...We shouldn't ever think of our spouse as our sibling.

I guess I didn't understand your question.  I think that all couples have to do things to bring fun into the relationship so you don't get bored with each other and get yourselves into a rut.  If you spend quality time together once a week or so, like having a date night, then you will feel more connected and both people will be able to give the other one space and both will be happier in the relationship.  On your dates, go out and do something that you both enjoy.  It can be something like walking along the beach and eating ice cream.  Or, stay home and watch a movie together.  It's so important to do things together that you both enjoy so the relationship doesn't die.

Answer 3

never in 5 years time

Answer 4

one year

Answer 5

what? umm.. saudis don't think  of they spouse as their sibling.

Answer 6

Now that is a very interesting question! lolz... cant wait for the answers!

Answer 7

You know whats cool? Or maybe funny? lol

In your question, you considered it something that will happen for sure, its just a matter of how soon LOL

I think its normal, and less common among those who have more than one wife as they'd have more space and miss eachother more etc...

Other than that I think its the same for ALL men all around the world, and the solution is the woman given the man some space.

A friend of mine was complaining after marriage saying "what did I get myself into? I cant believe this, she is great and so is her family but I cant take it anymore, you're right marriage isnt what it seems to be when you're single! ( theres good days and bad days and responsibilities etc )

He went on and on... and obviously needed to vent...

I was going to Abu Dhabi for a few days, so he bought a ticket and went with me, for 24 hours because he had to go back because of something related to her, and desperatly needed a change.

He looks very tough, not the cheesy type at all..

But very next day he looked at me and smiled like a 7 year old ( guilty smile)  saying he missed her. I was like you just need your space. Just let her spend weekends with her family etc so you miss eachother more etc and give yourselves space..

He was like no, women have small brains when it comes to stuff like this and women are always women ( dont attack me for this im just quoting him alright? LOL, and yes he knew he was stereotyping so get over it, he was venting ), but shes afraid that her family and relatives and people around her would say oh hes having her stay there because he doesnt like her, or doesnt want her, or doesnt love her etc... and doesnt want that so she just stays...  and he being the Saudi he is doesnt want to leave her alone at home.

Thats not directly answring your question but it certainly is related to it.

Theres so many jokes about it anyway.

Some say marriage is like living the same life you had, only having to carry a bag and lots of luggage wherever you want to go.. or having to eat the same food every single day....

Women are less likely ( I think ) to experience it because they are more emotional than men and feelings are a major part of the process.

Answer 8

marriage sticks to you like when snails stick to a tree

Answer 9

Your question is not precise. No one can take his wife as a a sister or a husband as a brother. However, it does happen that with age and time when all the novelties wear out, children grow up and go their own way and the 2 are left together alone, they find comfort and solace in each other by just being together, holding hands, taking a walk and reminiscing about there past life and thinking about the life to come. Yes that happens as you have spent alife time together but it still not the brother/sister thing. I think it probably happens when you are really old.