Married to an alcoholic?

Question

I am a woman with dignity and confidence in my self... i was always positive about life. but now i am emotionally , mentally tortured that even sometime i feel my self strong and later on very weak... now i can say its very hard....to be with an alcoholic, but i love him... is it worth to stay with him? he always drink everyday but still can manage to work the next day... he is responsible but my only problem is his drinking... i have a lot of questions in my mind... sometimes he is good and sometimes not ... it made me really nuts.

Answer 1

maby its time you start geting hammard with him. then you guys would have something in common!

Answer 2

just take him to his favourite r a calm place,talk to him freely n d problems u undergo.make him understand how much u lv him.even after dat if  he his not n position to change himself consult a psychatrist 4 further steps to proceed.dont lose ur self confidence  

Answer 3

Life I do not know if you have tried or know of the organization called Ala-non.  It is for friends and family of the alcoholic, to learn how to cope with this disease themselves.  It operates a lot like the AA program and there are a lot of nice people there willing to help you if you are open minded and interested.  Best of luck.

Answer 4

I think you should talk to him and tell him how do you feel about this but also be sure to let him know how much you love him and also let him know you want to help him and save your marriage, talk him about searching for help and be there with him, let him know he is not alone and you are very value as a woman and wife together you can be stronger and make a difference, He needs help even he may said he don't, Good luck I know is very hard but if he is a good man don't let him go, help him if he love you like you do he will change and get well with your Patience and support

Answer 5

Yeah, I'd have him get therapy. If he refuses to get help, you might want to consider leaving him. If he thinks the alcohol is more important than you, then he's the one who's worth less than alcohol so bad people will pay to get rid of it!

Answer 6

Well tell the guy when he's in a good mood to stop drinking.  If he loves you enough he can put down the beer bottle or at least not drink as much.  If not then maybe you might be better off divorcing him because alcohol can take sometimes life away and totally can change a person.

Answer 7

My husband, just 2 hrs ago fell off the wagon after 7 mths of sobriety.  He is still not home and I don't expect to see him until tommorrow.  I have 2 young children and I am in the same boat - I want to leave soooo bad!  I think u should leave him.  My husband has gotten me so low it's not funny.  Leave him now - it will not get better - my experience anyway

Answer 8

i have been with a alcholic  for 29 years i understand how u feel but i learned this a while ago      take care of yourself get some money saved and be prepared if you are suddenly alone     pray  for him and realise he has a sickness    he needs u even if e wont say he does. drinkers are hurting they have pain, trust me he has pain but honey take care of your future God bless you you brought tears to my eyes and a prayer on my lips

Answer 9

I had the same problem but over the years my husband became more abusive & physically violent. The verbal abuse was shocking & the scars are always with me. If he won't stop drinking no matter how much you love him it's not worth staying with him or you will live like this for the rest of your life!

Answer 10

ask him to get counseling, try anything to work it out. Hope I helped and goodluck :)

Answer 11

Convince him to join alcoholism intervention where he can talk to people which can help him stay away from alcohol.

Answer 12

This spring my husband really scared me.  He had been drinking all day.  He became violent, and I left.  Fortunately, my daughter was at grandmas.  When I returned the next day, and as always, he couldn't remember what happened.  I told him it was family or alcohol.  He choose us.  We attended AA with him and started going to church.  He has not drank in 96 days.

Answer 13

If you love him get him help...Now.

The sooner the better, even if you have to drag him to an intervention.

Once he is sober, he will be greatful.