Married women - help me understand?

Question

Married men come on to me ALL the time. And they all say the same thing. Their wives have lost all interest in s*x. I can understand being tired or bored or whatever, but don't you understand that to a man s*x is like eating or breathing? How do you expect to hang onto your man if you won't meet his most basic needs?

Answer 1

Kira...don't get caught up in yourself. Men chase anything ugly or pretty...it's not the looks it's the opportunity that gives them the challenge and if you give off any sense that your an opportunist...your gonna get flagged...get my drift?

Answer 2

It is puzzling.  I suppose they might all be lying to you, but I know many married women who have lost interest in s*x.  Makes me wonder why they stay married.  If you're only interested in your own needs and not your partner's, you don't belong in a relationship.  

Answer 3

Stop trying to blame every one else.

Look at yourself.  

Do you think you are that hot? Or look like that much of a tramp?  

Personally if more then 1 married man comes onto you, and he informs you that he is married, you are giving off those indicators.

Change your dress, and start thinking about how you are behaving.

Answer 4

Sounds like you were fed a line. And guess what, you fell for it hook, line, and sinker. Grow up. Real men don't cheat on their wives.

Answer 5

First, its tacky to talk to a married man. It says something about your character and who you attract. You might want to attract someone who is not willing to cheat and is single.

Secondly, people marry all the time who are not faithful. Let's not make hasty generalizations b/c that's all you can attract. And to be honest, some men may be lying to you b/c you actually believe it. Some men will tell you whatever you want to hear to get into your pants.

Thirdly, I don't have to hang on to my man. I know how to keep him. The question is can he keep up with my sexual cravings? All men are not alike and you don't need us to help you understand, you need to focus on attracting single men.

Answer 6

First off - the men approaching you are PIGS.

Real men do not cheat on their wives.

s*x is an important part of marriage but so is friendship, compassion and understanding.

Answer 7

Sweetie the problem is not that married women loosing interest in s*x the problem is that women like you that are not married actually believe that bull A MAN WILL SAY ANYTHING TO GET SOME @**. You just admitted to knowing that by saying s*x is like eating or breathing to them so why don't you get that it is frustrating to know women fall for this bull every minute of every day when in the world are women going to use their brain.

Answer 8

There are many reasons to not want s*x, you are only hearing one side of the story, does that make it O.K. to cheat...

Only to someone with no morals!

What about the service people who are gone for months at a time, is it O.K. to cheat on them because they are not around to "give it to you"

I guess you can excuse whatever behavior if you are screwed in the head!

Answer 9

My husband has a very low s*x drive because of his medications. I have a very high s*x drive and often leaves me frustrated.

Don't generalize and people have other things going on in their lives. Marriage isn't all about s*x, even though it is an important part of a marriage.

Answer 10

Yeah, you are totally generalizing married women and it does sound like they are feeding you the oldest line in the book! Grow up girl!

Answer 11

what you have to understand is this is not the norm. While there are some cases were women's hormones act up and they don't realize it so they don't get the vitamins they need to correct it and there are some women who are cheating and have no desire to be with the husband just like men and there are some cases where the man has done something to turn the wife off you don't live in there home so you really don't know but a lot of times this is just a way for a man to get some action on the side by playing a sympathy card kind of like the excuse they use about they just got married for the kids my answer to that one was oh so you sleep with people you don't care about and use no condom on top of that. Women need to stop being our own worst enemies we need to realize that men play on that.

Answer 12

Mrs. D. is right....that is the most frequently used line a man gives when looking for an affair; usually they also say they don't even sleep in the same room anymore and are just together until the kids are older.  Any of that sound familiar?  Don't fall for these lines.

Answer 13

Hmmmmm. They come on to you all the time?  You are meeting some scum; time to re-think how you are spending your time. It sounds like you are in all the wrong places! (And listening to the oldest lie in the book after 'I'm pregnant')

Answer 14

They are feeding you a line, in other words A LIE.  Those so called "married men" are horndogs that are simply trying to get into your pants and are using sympathy.  Most of those scumbags get plenty of s*x at home, they just love the thrill and excitement of trying to see if they can still be attractive to someone else.  That's all.

So, the next time some "married man" feeds you this line, you aren't the first woman or last woman they have used to have a little fun.  

And, married women do the same thing.  

Pretty sad, huh?

Best Wishes.

Answer 15

she may very well be meeting his needs -you are only hearing what HE is telling you- but he wants the excitement of something different. and in generating pity for himself, he is hoping to land something new so he can keep getting laid at home AND on teh side. it's win-win - just not for the wife, who is probably doing all the work in the marriage and putting up with mediocre s*x as well.  

Answer 16

Oh please they are feeding you the oldest line in the book! and you sound like you've bought it!

Answer 17

It's just the crowd you are around- may I guess a drinking crowd?  That crowd is into instant gratification.  When I was younger and drinking it was amazing to me- and depressing- the amount of come- ons I got from married men.  And I was married.  The crowd I hang out with now is not like that.  I wish you serenity