Married women help please,my husband thinks that l am having affair with my church member?

Question

there is this man in my church ,who happens to be my friend too,few weeks agao,he called me and invited me foe dinner,l told my husband and he said l should go,so l went and he told me that he is having problem with his wife and they are about to divorce,l feel pity for him,that his marriage of 7yrs with 2 kids is about to end,l know it is a difficult moment for him .when l arrive home l told my husband everything.so recently,the man started behaving strangly,he calls me always,send my messages telling me that he miss me and he thinks alot to me,my husband notice that for the past few days my phone is always ringing,and today for the very first time he pick up my phone,and he was so sad when he read my messages,l try to make him understand that l dont have anything to do with this man,that he is a confuse man who needs comfort,l know he believe my anyway ,but l can feel the sadness in his eyes.WHAT DO I DO?what is this my church member up to?,do you g**s thinks that he is in love with me or he is confuse because of his divorce?please l need advice,l dont know what to think anylonger,i love my husband and l feel so bad

Answer 1

If a man invites you to dinner he is interested no matter what.  It was nice enough for your husband to agree to it because he trusts you but now he might just be thinking he made the wrong decision.  Make sure you tell your church member while in front of your husband that he doesn't like all the phone calls and messages and that it's causing problems at home so this will not go further and you'll see him in church.

Answer 2

Tell him to please not call you anymore.  Change your number if you must.  If that does not work, perhaps your husband should tell him.  You fell for the worst trick in the book.  This man is NOT your friend.