Marrying the right guy ...?

Question

My sister has been dating her bf for 6 years. My sister is a very mellow person who hates confrontations. Meanwhile her bf is totally opposite of her. At times I feel he walks all over her. For some reason she's seems frighten of him. Therefore whenever they have an argument he is the one yelling/screaming and her. All she does is stare helplessly. I don't feel like he appreciates her. I know he loves her but at the same time I think he's taking advantage of her weakness. I think he likes the feeling of being in control. She goes by whatever he says and I'm afraid she'll lose more of herself in the future.

for instance, anything she picks out he says no. But whatever he and she doesn't like, he manages to make her agree with him. What should I do

Answer 1

talk to your sister..u can only talk to her and try to give her advice of course tell her your telling her this b/c you love her and care for her besides that you can only stare and watch and pray she wakes up b4 its too late. good luck

Answer 2

I think- by the information you have given- it looks like your sister really loves him and is afraid to lose him. She might me scared that she will lose him if she disagrees with him and make sacrifices just for the sake of her bf. but this is just an option.

   From your side, you could try to help her understand what she is doing and how her boyfriend is taking advantage on her.

Again...judging what you said makes me think that this aint the right guy ;=)

Answer 3

Speak with her and express your concern. Maybe that will give her the courage to confront him about it.

Answer 4

I think you should talk to her about what is going on and what you see.  Maybe she will hear you and grow a back bone.  

Answer 5

By experience I tell you, sometimes it is best to let people learn on their own. Although I agree 100% with you, I think the guy may be manipulating her and it's not right at all, sometimes you get better results by leaving things alone. Sometimes, people get mad at you when you try and tell them your point of view, ends up worse. Best of luck to you and your sister.

Answer 6

Stay out of it.

If she is really a timid person maybe she likes the take charge aspect of his personality. Often times people will choose a mate that offers a balance to their own traits.

Thats not to say she wont get sick of him bossing her around in 5 years though.