Master/Dom role in a B.d.s.m relationship?

Question

Does anyone actually frown on B.d.s.m relationships?, am a Dom in real life and looking for submissives, but many seem to think this is demeaning for a female to take this role (opinions please)

Answer 1

BDSM relationships are usually consensual.  With consent, demeaning doesn't factor into the equation.  I once knew a professor who was submissive and liked to wear a dog collar and be lead around be dom women.  It's a matter of 'partnering.'  If you're dom and your partner WANTS to be sub, it's not demeaning at all so long as you honor her safe word when she uses it.

Answer 2

i dont find any thing wrong with it as long as you both are okay with it.

Answer 3

Lol, people still think it's strange, it just depends on how open they are if they will tell you or not. My bf thinks I'm nuts cause I beg and beg for him to Dom me, even by not doing other things we both want to try, and he just doesn't get it. In our case, I think he thinks it might be demeaning for him to "force" me to do something as he's so big and physically domineering(7 ft 450lbs.) and I'm of a smaller frame, lol. He just doesn't see the consenual side to it. Lol. So I content myself with my imagination, lol. And we won't go there, no will we? Might scare someone :P

Good luck!  

Answer 4

As one that lives the lifestyle, i find it hard to trust someone i first meet.  Trust is the biggest part of D/s for both parts.  You must earn each others trust before moving on to anything else.  Always be totally open and honest with every faucet of the relationship, be it online or in real time.  Honesty falls in with trust.

I see my life more along the lines of a 1950's husband and wife type roll.  He wears the pants and i take care of Him house and all the inbetweens.  Most people that know U/us would never guess that W/we are in the lifestyle.  W/we do not announce it for all the world because as it has been stated, many do not understand.

All i can say is, finding the right person for you can be hard.  And once you find that right person, never lose their trust or respect.

Everyone views D/s-bdsm in a different light.  Be it bad or good, if this is who you are, if this is what makes you ..you..then try munches and crunches and see who and what is out there.  You may be surprised at how many are in the lifestyle but do not openly show it.

Answer 5

ITS COOL. 2 consenting adults having roll-play good for them some couples enjoy playing both rolls.it breaks the monotony of once a week and twice on sunday if your lucky scenario.  

Answer 6

i don't think it's a bad thing, you can have a loving relationship if you both respect eachother

Answer 7

They just don't understand it.  It's all consensual and some people like submission.  It's just a sexual fantasy that can be a lot of fun on either side of it.  People who are closed-minded about s*x see anything outside the norm as even more immoral than s*x already is, and so they come up with crazy ideas like "it causes rape!" or "it's degrading for women!" just so they have an argument other than, "I think it's wrong."