Mature marrieded adults help?

Question

Do your wedding vows mean anything?

Answer 1

Mine do.

They mean that my husband and I will love, honor, and cherish each other until one or both of us die.

Neither of us will cheat on the other with another individual.

We will spend the rest of our days working out the issues in our life no matter what they may be together.

This is my second marriage. Both of us have been married before, but this time we both agree that we married the love of our lives.

Answer 2

Absolutely they do.  I meant every word I said to my wife, and I am pretty darn sure that she did too.  Sadly, some people don't really mean what they say.

Answer 3

yes they do. I stand by them and so does my husband and that why our marriage has lasted.  

Answer 4

My vows meant everything to me. I expected to be loved and treated the way I treated my spouse. Years after all the silly temptations to stray, to leave, to become angry have gone, what's left is love. My vows meant I was loved uniquely by one person who I agreed to love equally, through whatever this old world threw at us. My vows. I recall vividly ....That part until death do us part? Not true. After 30 years he died this year, suddenly, without warning. I love him no less. I miss him more than words can say and if I could have a moment back with him I'd give up all I own to have him in my arms again.  

Answer 5

I agree with the 99% of these responders. Yes, I'm a mature married adult (30 years) and yes the vows mean everything. You promise. Keep your promise. (I don't mean you, I mean people).  

Answer 6

Mine did. I gave my word, I made a commitment. I thought it was done deal.

I'll be married 25 years in May but my husband left me suddenly (via email) over 2 yrs ago saying he had "fallen out of love".

What irks me is  - I'm not a hot-head or anything. We had talked many times throughout our marriage (theoretically)about what we would do if either of us wanted out.

But when the time came that he wanted out he emailed me!  I'm still in shock. Had he been up front and honest I could have dealt with it a lot better than I have. The going out for a pack of cigarettes and not coming back was a low thing to do to to me and his two teenage daughters.

Sorry - but to answer your question yes. Wedding vows are legally binding promises. If you're going to break such a promise, you need to do it honestly and compassionately.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 7

Wedding vows are the all-encompassing meaning of true marriage.

If more people lived up to the words that they repeat then our divorce rate wouldn't be through the roof.

I said my vows to my wife, while I looked her in the eye.  I don't know how you could do the same and them not mean anything.

I pray everyday to be the husband, man, and father that my family deserves.

So to answer your question directly.  Yes, they mean the world.

Answer 8

I got married in Germany and said some stuff in German...I don't speak or understand German and I'm still married for the past 6 years. So what does that tell you. Vows are just words its actions that mean something. When you say your going to get married you better be ready to commit well before your vows.  

Answer 9

The only thing in this world that is truly mine.. is my word.

When I make a promise, I keep it.

I have taken vows other than my marriage vows ( for work related reasons), and any vow I give/have given is my word.

So yes, our wedding vows mean something.

Answer 10

hoooooo, heck yea. i don't know how women memorize what the man sais word for word but they do, believe me.  

Answer 11

yes...and that is why even when things are hard, we don't bail...

Answer 12

Of course they do, otherwise I wouldn't have gotten married and made that commitment.

Answer 13

Of course, it's the commitment that was made in earnest before God. Whenever you are having difficulty, you are supposed to be able to reflect on that commitment and draw the strength that's needed to tackle the issues at hand.

At the very least, those vows serve as the catalyst for open dialog and discussion around the problems with the view of working hard to resolve the issues.

Those vows should serve to allow you to gain common ground.  Induce the serious discussion and communication that's sometimes needed in a marriage when things run aground.

It is these vows and the years that accumulate in your marriage that help you to sum up the courage to persevere in spite of any difficulty.  There is nothing that two mature, secure adults can't face together and if whatever is stressing your marriage is beyond you two, then seek professional help to get the train of communication started down the path to success.  

Your vows symbolize the commitment, the bond, the resolve and the strength that serve to hold your marriage together.

Good luck and I hope this helps you to deal with whatever prompted you to ask this question.

Answer 14

Of course they do! They are what you are promising your soul mate for the rest of yours lives as one. I'm getting married in November and me and my fiance are working on writing our vows. I want to tell him exactly what he means to me and how I promise to be his for the rest of time. Take them very seriously.