Mature readers only please. Do you think I offened her? What would you think if you were me?

Question

We're college students and attended Sunday school together when we were younger. She's the deacon's daughter. We're both female and have been out a few times. She kept taking about s*x so I thought she was trying to tell me but was afraid to. So I finally asked her was she having s*x. She said she lost her v... the summer before starting college w/a guy she loved at the time. She said she has been w/four guys. She told me she had a one night stand but there was no emotion so she decided that wasn't for her. She said it's a personal decision.

Answer 1

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Answer 2

If she was offended, she wouldn't have given you so many details! No, you were fine to say what you did.

Answer 3

This wasn't a question.  

It doesn't belong in the etiquette section.

I don't see how you could have offended her in any way...except if you left out some details in your post about the conversation you had with her.  

If you were judgemental towards her for talking about her s*x life, that is offensive.  If you called her a s**t, that is offensive.  Since there is no mention of that anywhere, then you didn't offend her.  It sounds like you simply listened to what she said.

If that subject makes you uncomfortable, then you could either avoid talking about it or you could simply say: "I would rather discuss something else".    That way it won't look like you're judging her behavior.  I personally would be uncomfortable with somebody who is only a casual acquaintance sharing the details of their s*x life with me.

To be helpful, could you ask a real question in the future?   I'm not trying to be mean.  It just wasn't worded as a question.

Answer 4

And the question is...?

Just because you're the child of someone doesn't mean you have to be that person too.  She is her own person, and her life choices and decisions are hers, not her parents, not the popes and not yours.

Answer 5

i dont think shes offended. just a little confused on why you were asking her that. but she did start the *** conversation, so it is partly her fault that it came up. your just being a polite conversation "keeper uper". lol. if she hasnt hit you, or dejected you, then shes probably forgotten it. just hang it with her and continue being her friend. its no biggie

Answer 6

I don't understand your question - how could you have offended her? It sounds like you are just confused at her behavior considering she is a deacon's daughter? Really...that means nothing. She's just human. Doesn't matter who her parents are....besides, every one knows that children of church parents are usually hellions any way.

Answer 7

Well, personally I think this a grade "A" case of the spring effect. The harder a child is pushed down to conform (especially if one or both of the parents are a figure head and expect the child to act a certain way for public), the further they will spring (i.e. into s*x, drugs...etc.).

Answer 8

I think your friend did what she wanted to do and is continuing to do so.What she does within the law is up to her and she should make no excuses or apologies to anyone. She confided in a friend who has broadcast her private life and social behaviour (albeit without naming her) all over Yahoo. I think your friend may be rebelling a little against what was probably  quite a repressive religious upbringing. In the meantime try not to betray your friend's trust and don't judge her or anyone else for that matter.