Maybe i am wrong?

Question

I'm 4 months pregnant, and my fieonce is always telling me that im sup post to be a nurturer and cook him food and take care of him. Now i know that i need to take care of myself so that out baby is healthy and i try to do my best on that, but i feel so angrey at him sometimes because i feel like he should do some stuff for me sometimes, like cook me dinner....i mean last night he got mad at me cuz i didnt want to hold a flashlight under his car for an hour because my stomic was hurting, and i felt guilty cuz im not really big yet so maybe i should have, and i also feel guilty because i feel like maybe i dont do enough for him.....but i just hate it cuz he is always making fun of me, and never wants to here about how i feel, and i guess thats just the way some men are, but it doesnt feel really good when im always getting cut of when im trying to tell him how i feel, or whatever....im so into him, and i love him so much, i just feel like he thinks imma be a bad mom...any advice??

Answer 1

yeah i so agree with Bugsey. maybe it is your spelling and grammar.

you did agree to marry him.

Answer 2

FIRST OF ALL, HE'S BEING A JERK FOR GETTING MAD AT YOU FOR NOT WANTING TO GET ON THE GROUND AND HOLD A FLASHLIGHT UNDER HIS CAR FOR HIM. YOUR PREGNANT FOR CRYIN OUT LOUD, NO MATTER IF YOUR BIG YET OR NOT.

AND JUST BECAUSE HE WANTS YOU TO COOK HIM DINNER ALL THE TIME AND WANTS YOU TO TAKE CARE OF HIM DOESNT MEAN THAT YOU HAVE TO. OBVIOUSLY DO YOUR PART IN CONTRIBUTING TO THE RELATIONSHIP BUT HE NEEDS TO REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE NOT HIS MOMMA, YOUR HIS SOON TO BE WIFE. A WIFE IS NOT A MAID OR CHEF THAT YOU HIRED.

ME AND MY HUSBAND TAKE TURNS DOING EVERYTHING EXCEPT TAKING OUT THE GARBAGE. HE DOES THAT. BUT WE TAKE TURNS DOING LAUNDRY, GIVING THE KIDS THEIR BATHS, HE UNLOADS THE DISHWASHER AND PUTS THEM AWAY, I LOAD IT, AND WE TAKE TURNS COOKING DINNER TOO.

AND WHILE I WAS PREGNANT HE TOOK ON MORE OF THE LOAD OF THINGS. YOUR MAN NEEDS TO REMEMBER THAT YOU HAVE A HUMAN BEING GROWING INSIDE OF YOU AND THAT TAKES A LOT OF ENERGY AND ITS IMPORTANT FOR HIM TO HELP YOU OUT, NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND

Answer 3

Maybe it's your spelling and grammar?

Sorry dear, I have no sympathy, you agreed to marry him.  You're about to tie yourself to him legally, can't really complain.

Answer 4

Pregnancy is serious, and you need to take care of your baby like you said.  He needs to be taking care of you a little more it sounds like.  dont feel guilty (most women wouldnt want to hold a flashlight under a car lol), he just is probably oblivious like most guys.  They dont understand how big of a pain it is to be pregnant for 9 months and go through everything.  Tell him that you like doing things for him, but he needs to help you out a little too. There needs to be a balance of things you do for eachother.

Answer 5

I think you should focus on spelling first. Maybe growing up too because both of you sound like you arent even old enough for a baby.

Answer 6

You & Him n33d to solve yall issues b4 you have this baby and get married

Answer 7

He is supposed to be taking care of you, babe.

He's an a.ss

If you can find some way not to marry him, then go with that.

He won't make you happy.