Me and husband got into a fight over something stupid, should I be mad that he left the house for the night?

Question

Me and my husband had an argument (stupid one) over how to take care fot the dog when he got neutered. Its more of a battle of who knows more but I gae in and he kept correcting anything I did for the dog and annoyed me and we started to argue. Well he left and didn't return tilll the following day to apologize. I am over 8 months pregnant, alone in a apartment with his 2 year old daughter, I can't forgive him for leaving for a whole night (couple hours is ok). What do you think?

Answer 1

are you serious? if you cant handle one little arguement and even when he does appolgize theres no way you guys can make a real marriage last( if you guys plan on marriage)

my parents fight all the time but you need to just calm down and forget about it

Answer 2

Sounds like he's trying to find petty reasons to leave.  Tell him I said to man up and stop being selfish.

Answer 3

Sad is understandable and normal.  Mad will just make things worse.

Answer 4

Okay i could see him leaving to cool down for a while but a whole night when your 8 months pg.I would be mad at him also.i would say 3 hours would have been long enough.

Answer 5

From now on let him take care of all of the dog's needs.  

Answer 6

Hi,

    I want to say you're wrong, but I can't. If he stayed away all night and doesn't verify where he was/ who he was with, then he was up to NO GOOD. It's time for the 3rd Degree., but be tactful. you don't want ANOTHER argument. Good Luck, and don't get TOO upset. Your child will sense the tension. Not to mention the two year old.

                                           Tony62

Answer 7

that's seriously immature for him to leave the house over such a silly arguement.

Answer 8

Relish the peace and quiet, and when he comes back home, kick him out for good. It's the stupidest arguments that make you wonder why you got married in the first place.  

Answer 9

Get over it, your 8 months pregnant.. Pregnancy makes women act a bit different.  He was probably frusterated with you and the dog was probably just the last straw, he needed to get away and calm down and think about the situation.

And the other thing i got to say on this one quit expecting him to act and do things the way you think he should, he is not you, he is going to do things his way.  What i mean is for the situation it is up to him to determine wether 2 hours or all night is appropriate not you, you don't know how long it took him to cool down and for all you know if he came back after 2 hours he probably would have started fighting with you again.

*edit* ok, listen here you spoiled little brat, your husband is who he is, the reason the two of you are fighting is because you seem to think you have the right to tell him what to do and what to think and that you can control his every thought and emotion.  Sorry little girl people don't work like that, not even husbands, instead of sitting there thinking he should be doing this and that perhaps you need to be thinking i should stop trying to be such a manipulative little woman.  After your last comment i wouldn't blame the guy one iota if he walked out the door and never came back.

Answer 10

You all need to talk! Trust that it wasn't just that argument. Are you having the little arguments more often. There is something bothering him. He could have a lot on his mind. A baby, a baby on the way, a pregnant wife, and a dog. Anything could set him off. Just pick an issue. Seriously though girl. Make sure that you let him know that you are there for him and that you are listening to him. Get to talking.

Answer 11

Pretty bad.  If you want to forgive him, give it time, and forgive him for your own sake if you do.

Answer 12

Tell him if he does that again that he is going to be the next one in the house to be neutered.  And in the future when he does his "I know EVERYTHING" routine, tell him that he just made your life easier, to do it himself from now on!

Answer 13

he's your husband so forgive him. but don't let it go. where did he go? wtf was he thinking. his balls probably need to drop because he's still a little boy. probably a sneaky one find out where he went.

Answer 14

I think you should talk to him and ask him to never do it again. That was wrong and hurtful to you! Tell him how you feel and make him promise to you that he will never do it again no matter how bad the argument is. My husband did the same thing a couple of times and it was very upsetting, so I know how you feel. Talk to your hubby and hopefully he will apologize. You have a right to be upset with him but you should forgive him. Good luck and God bless you!

Edit: I have a solution for you. Write up a contract in which both of you agree to let each other have a time out ( not longer than 2 hours) when you get into an argument. After the time out you should talk about the situation and share your feelings with each other. But never just let it go! Anger will keep building up and it is not good for anyone.

Edit: Do not listen to the people who tell you you are acting stupid and immature! Your husband was completely wrong, it is ok to have an argument, but it is not ok to leave your wife for 1 night after the argument, it is unacceptable!

Answer 15

Oh please, you are 8 mo's pregnant and he left for one night. Come on, you act like you were stranded on a remote island. Yeah maybe he was being a jerk but wasn't it better than fighting over the dog and upsetting you more in your condition, not to mention upsetting your 2 yr old. Don't be petty and immature. forget it. He could have left for good then whre would you be. I know I am being harsh but don't you have a telephone. You could hae called for help if you needed medical help. Besides woman have babies everyday. Grow up

Answer 16

Yeah, that's a little extreme. You need to straighten that out in a hurry.  

Answer 17

I would so mad at him!  A couple hours is ok to cool off but not the whole night!  It would take a little while for me to forgive and forget...But I think I would eventually...Good Luck

Answer 18

Better to leave than to keep on and get more and more mad over stupid things.  all night or not does not matter.  Let this go and get over it.  both need to just mention that it would be nice to quit argueing before you get to this point next time.

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Answer 19

Some men need space when they get mad.  My husband will leave if we get in a bad argument because he knows I want to talk about it and get it out of the way.  He prefers to think alone about it and then talk.  We clash on that badly.  At least he chose to leave for the night instead of staying and it really getting worse.  He has that breaking point and I'm glad he knows that.  He doesn't take his anger out on me or our kids.  My husband will leave for a few hours or the whole night depending on the situation.  At least it was at night and the child was asleep.  Talk to him about it and just tell him you didn't like it.  Come up with a solution for when yall do argue and he feels he needs space.  I hate that my husband leaves but I've learned that is his way of dealing with problems.