Me and my bf are thinkin bout babies at 16?

Question

we r disgussin the names wat they are like when they r older and all sorts of stuff lol

he says it doesnt scare him because its our future wat do u think

Answer 1

you are thinking of what it was like when you were little and all it is a desire to be a baby again   once you hav had a child and you discover you cant look after it properly it is a shame for the baby so weigh out your options first   my opinion is wait until you are both older

Answer 2

awww me and my bf did that...we actually WANTED to have a baby now...but then we thought that it wouldnt be right cuz we have to think of that baby...so i went on the pill...and ended up pregnant anyways lol

But dont TRY to have a baby at this age...it will be so hard on you two. But i think its great that u and ur bf talk about the future!

Answer 3

can i just remind you of your question you posted a day a go.

you were worried because you were sleeping around!

pregnancy is the lesser of 2 evils you can catch through sleeping around.

you are 16 and if you planned a baby now then you are just plain selfish.

i fell pregnant  by boyfriend of nearly 4 years when i was 17, (unplanned of course because I'm not stupid).

its not easy and you will NOT  be able to cope a baby doesn't give you a house or money or love!!my partner and i work 90 hours a week to bring in enough money for our daughter,we wake up 4am most mornings to get to work on time,its so demanding,you wont believe it!.

at 16 its going to take an extremely strong person to raise another human being,you are still afterall a CHILD.

by all means talk about the future,but dont go having a baby,theres enough children raising children in poverty as there is.

Answer 4

Why? Are you looking for a playmate? At your age your still children yourself.

A boy always says he's not scared until it happens then they rarely stand up to the obligation until forced by the courts...is that how you want your life to go?

Answer 5

This girl is not a freak... women have a motherly instinct! Its natural... the only think freakish is if you DONT have thoughts like this.

It is natural to want to explore your future and look into your future and this is a good thing because it means you can SEE your future! - WITH your current boyfriend...

I posted a question about this the other day, i had to take a pregnancy test - and i got upset when i saw the negative result. I'm also 16 and i think this is healthy!

Just please think before you bring a baby into this world?

why not live your life before you have a child. Have some 'selfish' years where you only have yourself yo care for - because when you have children. They come before everything.

Even yourself!

Good Luck to you... and ignore any nasty comments... These people are heartless!

xxxxx

Answer 6

It's fine if you are just talking about the future - that's great! But if you really are thinking about getting pregnant to have a child at 16, there is something seriously weird going on!

Answer 7

I used to do the same...everyone talks about the furture doesnt mean ur gonna act on it straight away i would think ur more intelligent to get preg at 16... i always used to talk about names and houses etc but didnt think yeah lets get preg...yes im 22 with a 10mnth daughter but im married with a house and settled down and my daughter was planned...no harm in discussin future just dont throw ya young years away :-) and take no notice of the nasty comments on here

Answer 8

look before you leap - count the financial costs and do some research about how much pay you could expect when in a job at the age of 17

i have just been supporting a family that had their first kid at 16, and now at age 26 have lost their marriage and their home.

they have very little to fall back on due to not getting qualifications up behind them to tide them over should their marriage fail and they are basically destitute

Answer 9

babies at 16? a seriously bad idea...

discussing at 16 years of age about having babies later on, ok, but still far too young to be thinking about babies.

Answer 10

Pleeeease dont go having children now, you are clearly still one yourself. At 16 neither of you have any idea what you really want, your lives will change dramatically over the next 10 years- you will look back and say 'thank god we werent stupid enough to have a baby then'.

Neither of you know what your future holds, trust me.

Answer 11

It's alright to talk about it...Just don't do it.

Answer 12

thats great, unless you want a babie now because trust me honey its not mummies and dollies.

its hard work. crying all the time waking early hours in the morning, cant see your friends as they get bored with you. so if your thinking of it please dont

Answer 13

As long as you think you can handle all that p**p screaming and the other included things in the storks package,go ahead. But it is not the best decision!

Answer 14

Nothing wrong in 'Thinking ' about babies at all ...get a good education a job and a place to live and live your life a little then think about a baby .

Answer 15

you are way too young to be thinking about children. you are still in school, need to go to collage, and you still need to get a job that has a sufficient income to provide for your child and it might look easy, but its a lot of work raising another human being.

having kids at such a young age could prevent you from ever being successful

Answer 16

I would stick to talking about it! I am a 44 yr old women, my mum had me when she was 16 and my dad was 19! They have been divorced for 10 yrs now. They had 4 kids, and quite honestly I will tell you even though they tried there best. It hasn't been without cost to them or us 4 kids! They have both been dreadful parents as they both missed growing up without kids! They were resentful and are both unhappy and have health problems! If i were you enjoy being young and just talk about kids, but have them when you are at least in you 20s!

Answer 17

There is nothing wrong with talking about it as long as it's years in the future but please don't have children now! You are still young and there's so much to do before you have kids. It's not the be all and end all, stay young while you still are!

Answer 18

Thinking is different from having.

Try looking after one for a couple of days, then imagine years of it. That will take the shine off the idea.

Answer 19

everyone has a future, whether it's a baby, marriage, a good job and enough money to see you by and pay the bills etc.

I used to talk about it too when i was your age. It's only natural, just don't rush into anything unless you and your partner are absolutely certain it is what you want, i would wait a couple of years to have a baby to make sure you's are completely settled and happy with your relationship and have enough financially.

If you don't mind me asking i presume you are either in high school still and off for the six weeks hols, or have you just left last month permanantly?

Answer 20

how long have you and your bf been together for?

i would say wait untill your 20 and seeif you still want a baby, if you do makesure its brought into the world with lots of care and love.

goodluck. (=

Answer 21

OK like one of the answerer's said it's cute to think about the future and all !! but i think you're too young try to get a carrier and everything where you both know you have a steady job!

then try to make a baby but before that enjoy your life as a youth without responsibilities of a child and go out when you're older to clubs and such with your boyfriend!

Answer 22

its ok to think about them but having at that age you wouldn't be able to give them as great a life if you had waited till you had a great paying job and have the money to raise a child

Answer 23

i think you shouldn't be whoreish and become pregnant just beause you like the name sally. it's like you wouldn;t buy a lion if it's teeth were white, big effing whoop wait. and remember god is watching

Answer 24

it seems a bit rushed.

but it happens.

I dont think i would plan it at 16.

answer mine please/http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind...

Answer 25

In one word - don't. Live your life first. There must be so many things you want to do. When you have a child it will limit what you can do. Also you think you may know a lot now but think about this. Do you have more knowledge now than when you were 10 years old. Of course you do. Just think how much more knowledge you will have in another 6 years when you are 22.

Answer 26

Hi ;) there's no wrong to think, and to be talking about names. But if you are serious about this you need to sit down and do the "serious" thinking too.

You'd need to make a budget, including everything a baby needs, and a plan to provide all those things to your baby... You would also need a plan to keep on with your studies (because you do want to finish high school, believe me!)

Unless you think you are ready and you are not relying on your parents to babysit and pay for most of the stuff...

You probably should keep on thinking :P

Answer 27

If your talking about the future thats fine but if you are talking about soon really think about it it is alot more work than you probably think

Answer 28

you definatly shouldnt have a child at sixteen

its too much responsibility and its unfair on the child, you won't be mature enough to look after a child.

Answer 29

i think its cute me and my boyfriend have talked about it to

were only sixteen and hes already decided when he wants them to

its natual to know what names you want nd all that

Answer 30

I think that its alright to discuss it as long as you aren't planning on having kids right now.

While you are talking about it try throwing in an "I don't think I'm ready for children right now" or just mention that your conversation would be pertaining to what happens in the future and not soon into the conversation.

Having kids at such a young age is very difficult and could ruin any plans you have for your future.