Me and my ex-wife have been divorced and separated a year just recently she fell ill i helped her out. ?

Question

After that she introduced me to her new boyfriend. now i had no problem with that at all but now all of a sudden she wants to call me every week.Can Some one help me with this issue? what does she want?

Answer 1

being a woman, I know how complicated we can get.

You were there to help her when she needed someone the most. She now realized that a divorce isn't really going to separate you.

She might either 1, make you jealous by showing you she is with a new guy -- she wants to see your reaction to see if there is still something there, because if there is, she might want to reconnect with you.

or 2, is trying to make you become her best friend and share all the juicy gossip of her life. The time you were her husband, you probably grew together so much that she might have considered you her best friend. You have seen the best and the worst of her, and you will, out of respect & gentleman actions, always be there for her as a friend, if not for anything more -- and I think she knows that.

Answer 2

I don't get your question, do you still care about her? do you not want her to call you ? has she come on to you? If you don't want her to call tell her.  

Answer 3

u her rebound. if things go wrong with dude she may want u bac. let her kno u over her but have no problem being friends. and be a good friend. if u like her giv it another round!

Answer 4

Sometimes it may be an issue of comfort level.  She wants to confide in you because she values your opinion and trusts you.  Well, maybe.

Answer 5

I am assuming since your divorce, you and your ex have maintained a platonic relationship.  If this is a correct assumption, I feel she is holding on to what feels like her best friend.  She knows you expect nothing from her, she can depend on you to be there for her and she can be herself around you.  You seem to have an open friendship, so I would recommend asking her what she wants.  You should be able to do that without her getting upset.  You said it doesn't bother you that she has a new boyfriend but not why it bothers you for her to call you every week.  I think the only place you're going to get the right answer is by asking her.  My ex and I have remained good friends for over 33 years now and my door has always been open to him and his to me.  No one else knew us better than we knew each other..so who better to talk to when there were problems in our lives?.  If I needed an answer, as you do, I would ask.  There is no harm asking and she should be able to answer you honestly.  Good luck to you.

Answer 6

if you were together for a very long time, she probably feels like she can talk to you better than her boyfriend she has now.  don't read too much into it and just kick back, be her friend and talk to her.  my daughter is divorced from her ex for about a year and a half, have one child, get along better now and they are now going out places together, but not really dating, mainly for the daughter they have together, you know summer stuff, picnics, swimming, parks.

Answer 7

She is getting compassion confused with love.

She feels because you have helped her, you

want her back. <}:-})

Answer 8

The best thing to do is have an open and honest conversation with her about it.  Be honest about your feelings and your questions but try not to be too emotional.  

Answer 9

You need to ask her why she calls all the time...How about you not being so convenient for her, let her deal with her own life she has moved on.  If she is trying to make you jealous and what her, you don't want someone like this.

Answer 10

I think she still loves you silly! If you still love her confront her and ask her if this is true. If she does tell her your feelings. If she doesn't then ask her why she is behaving this way. Good Luck!

Answer 11

She knows you and shes comfortable with you.  Even though you have gone thru divorce she still remembers that comfort level.  If she has had hard times it is hard to leave the comfort zone that your provided by helping her out.  She is most likely looking for a close friend but she may still love you and is confused.  What you want out of it depends alot on you.  If you still love her and would like to try again then keep talking to her and see where it leads.  If you have moved on then always keep her at arms length.  Its ok to be someone she can depend on but no more than you would for any other close friends.

Answer 12

Tell her that she needs to find a different way to handle her problems.  It's okay to help out once in a while but I think she is taking advantage of you.

Answer 13

tell her that she has a husband, and to ask him for help.

Answer 14

Everytime she calls you tell her that you have to go help your girlfriend with something. Even if you dont have one. Make her not want to call you.

Answer 15

Maybe she still loves you! ya big dumby!