Me and my girl friend of a year now wants to have a baby but she already has two kids. I'm scared...need input

Question

She already has two kids. And has been married before, how are her kids going to take this. They are 10 and 4. and they don't know about us yet. Just think i'm a friend.....

Answer 1

Seems like you may *want* to have a kid, but are completely unprepared for it.  If her children don't know that you two are a couple then it's not very logical to skip that step and move onto creating a whole family without the knowledge of the children.  Perhaps you should enjoy the desire to have a child together, but should take appropriate steps to creating that nurturing family environment by creating a fatherly bond with her children first and allow them time to adjust to the idea before moving on.

Answer 2

I would recommend meeting her children and let them know that you are dating before having a child with her.

Answer 3

Might want to tell them the truth and see how they react to that first, then if they are okay, go ahead with that.  You obviously will have more input from the 10 year old than the 4

Answer 4

Dude try to get marry, this is the most horrible thing about western culture, they dont marry but still want to hav kids remember this attitude gonna distroy that child's future.Marry her and make her ur wife then live like men.