Me and my husband are planning on having a fourth child...?

Question

I was wondering how different it is to go from 3 to 4 kids...My kids are a girl that is 6 a boy that is 3 and a 1 1/2 year old....We are planning on waiting a year or two to try for another boy!!!! But I was wanting to find out how some of you stay sane and handled the changes from child 3 to child 4.....Serious answers only!!!!!

Answer 1

Well, I come from a family of four children. I honestly think it is important that the parents are finacialy prepared and ready for that many children. Second that they are able to give them a good education and dedicate a good amount of time to their up bringing and raising them properly with the care and love all children deserve. I also know a family with seven kids..which honestly is the best biggest and most closest family I have ever met. I find that it is important that the age difference between them isn't that great, because having so many kids you want them to be able to get along, and have things in common and still be able to play together and when they get older go to each other with things and feel like the age difference won't matter so much. Staying sane..lol you really just need to have a lot of patience and be good with kids, try to be a understanding and loving parent. Believe me I think a full family is great. You should be excited =) Good luck

Answer 2

Well I can ask you a few questions to ask yourself.

Is your car big enough for 2 booster seats, one baby seat and your eldest child??

Do you have enough room for all your people??

Can you afford to send them all to college??

Do you and hubby have enough alone time??

Are you happy with motherhood??

Are you going to cope if baby #4 is a girl??

Answer 3

When I was about to have my 3rd child I remembered something an old friend of the family said to me : After two kids, it's all the same.

And, it really is. Yes, theres a bit more to do with 4 than 3, but not much really changed in my house except the number of loads of laundry to do. Your sanity level and stress level are just the same.

Answer 4

My sister has 4 children.  She said that going from 1 child to 2 was a dramatic change and very difficult.  She said that if you have 2, you might as well have 10.  After having #3 and #4 things weren't really that different.  Just more questions to answer.

Answer 5

I say go for it! Believe it or not, it's not much different to add one, when you're talking about sanity! I've found that it actually works out better to have an even number because when it comes to team games, nobody gets left out. There's always between one and ten kids at my house. We have six but their friends and our nieces and nephews come over quite often. They have a blast and you'd never know there were that many kids in the house. Of course there's the occasional arguing, but you get that if you have more than one kid!

Answer 6

i don't have kids, but my parents made 5

so

and we're all teenagers

i asked them once how they dealt with us and they said

1. we spent seperate time with each of you

2. made different nap times for each of you

3. fed you different times

they said it was easier that way, i don't know