Me and my husband got into a big fight and he left 19 days ago. i have stayed away but went today and had ?

Question

lunch with him. he said hes sick of the arguments and hes not sure if he loves me anymore. that cant be..he was worshipping the ground i walk on only less than a month ago. can a man make himself fall out of love? if he tries to not love me will he eventually stop loving me? i hugged and kissed him today i think it comforted him but he was unresponsive.

Answer 1

When two people can't communicate and fight constantly, something has to give. If you can't get to the root of the problem and solve it, love will die and some times replaced with hate.

Like your husband said, he's sick of the arguments. If you don't get some marriage counselling and learn how to properly communicate with each other, the arguments are going to destroy your marriage. Get some help, before it's too late.

Answer 2

idk about your husband, but i've known different men who can turn their feelings on/off like a light switch.  idk how they do it, but they do.  

Answer 3

It is very possible, if you fight too much he can grow to not love you... because of the type of relationship. if he thinks of you and thinks about all the arguing its a unneeded stress for him. no one needs it and his love for you can fade instantly.. a relationship is to be happy, not to *****. Also, alot has to do with the arguement you were in, did you lie? lying is usually a no turning back moment.

Answer 4

It can happen.

Too many arguments and nagging stupid fights over stupid things are so soul-sucking!

If you are successful in changing his mind, I hope you and he will struggle to keep these kind of things under firm control.

Answer 5

How do you treat him on a daily basis?  Sounds like he is fed up.  Women get that way, too, when they are taken for granted, yelled at, manipulated, lied to and not appreciated.

Answer 6

Find out why he feels as though he no longer loves you and go from there. Maybe he's frustrated with the way things have been going in your relationship or maybe he has found someone else. At any rate, the two of you need to communicate without arguing to see if you both are willing to do what it takes to make your relationship strong again.

Good Luck!

Answer 7

My advice would be, leave him alone, if he's meant to come home he will. If you keep seeing him he will see it as pressure. You don't say what the arguments are about. It's a big move to leave, there has to be a bigger reason. Sometimes you can love someone but not be able to live with them. Don't make yourself a doormat to make him come home. He's either messing you about in which case you really don't want that in your life, or he needs some space to find out what his feelings are. Either way, best to put space between you both.

Answer 8

Falling in love is easy.  Keeping that love a live is a different story.  Love takes work on both people.  It isn't something that we are going to feel every day.  It is a commitment to stay with that person.  If you are not getting abused in any way and not cheated on or stolen from or a having drug/alcohol problems you can work on that love.  People tend to forget what they did to one another when they first fell in love.  Do some of those sweet things you use to do however this time don't stop keep it going.

Answer 9

He probably has been thinking about this for awhile now. I don't think it is physically possible for someone to just fall out of love in like a day. Talk with him some more and find out what is really going on. Good luck.

Answer 10

You "opened the door" to communication today. Take it slow, give him time, and eventually he will come around. If he ever loved you, he still does...he has just suppressed it, as a defense mechanism.  Invite him out for the weekend ahead...go and have fun!