Me and my husband have just separated. He is a rookie cop and think he has so much authority. ?

Question

He tries to make me be fearful to file child support or even ask for assistance from him since me and my children moved out. He makes excuses that he can't give anything. The reason for the separation was because he was involved in infidelity and never tried to rebuild trust and our relationship all together. It went from bad to very worst. I have been trying for the past year doing everything to try and make it better through all the hurt I had to face, and he has not made me feel that he has tried at all. His main focus has been his job. He is there even when he was suppose to be off.Now I just need some advice on what I should do at this point.

Answer 1

who did he cheat with a female cop? i hear police have the highest divorce rate, look go to a lawyer it doesn't matter if he is a cop he's trying to throw his weight around. He knows he has to pay child support and probably alimony too, have your lawyer make him leave why should you and the kids have to move? no way.

Answer 2

He sounds like a douche. The law shouldn't excuse him just because he enforces it. If he doesn't want anything to do with his family and he has no balls to man up to his responsibilities of being a father and husband, divorce his ***. But first try to get him to do marriage counseling before that, if he doesn't he's hopeless. He doesn't deserve to be a cop. h**l, I know a few cops that are nothing like that, and one FBI agent. The FBI dude went through a divorce, he wasn't exempt from the law. The cops in Lexington are pretty awesome though, that don't get mad at all and they aren't douchebags.

Answer 3

Law Enforcement has one of the highest divorce rates around so not surprising this happened but am sorry to hear it. If he keeps threatening you like this it could very well cost him his job. You need to contact your locallegal aid association for help and just divorce him and sue his adulterous a.s for everything youre legally entitled to. You will automatically be awarded custody along with child support and even the house as the Judge doesnt want the kids living on the street, unless youre ruled unfit and I dont see that here. This is why hes trying to get you not to file against him as its going to cost him big time. The Judge would also be very interested in his threats as thats conduct unbecoming an officer and could cost him dearly. Contact legal aid and if I can be of any further assistance please feel free to email me at   [e-mail]   and Ill gladly get back to you ASAP.  Also now dont agree nor sign anything from him or any attorney until you contact someone or even me about it as the courts cant undo anything thats done outside their courtroom. Good luck

Answer 4

make him jealous with his best friend

Answer 5

file for child support and take his cheating *** to the cleaners, just because he is a rookie cop does not mean he will not be held accountable to support his children, do not let him bully you at all... be strong and good luck!

Answer 6

Go ahead with things the same you would if he was in any other profession. Just cause he's a cop doesn't mean he gets to not pay child support. If he didn't, and you took him to court, think how that would look against him, if he's so proud of being a cop and upholding the law, do you think he'll really want a rep. that he could get from this?

Answer 7

You need to get a lawyer.  He will help you legally deal with you soon to be ex and make sure you and the children are taken care of properly.  In all reality you shouldn't have to deal with him beyond a certain point.

Answer 8

Get an attorney and go to court, they will take the burden off you and ease your mind a little bit, if you cannot afford them, they are free in some states

Answer 9

ahhh the lil rent a cop dont want to pay child support...

any court will be more than happy to help him see the light

http://singleparents.about.com/od/legali...

it's a crime to not pay child support and that's a FACT.

Answer 10

See how tough he is when he gets a court order to pay child support.  

Unless he physically threatens you, don't be afraid.  And if he does that, press charges.  

Bad relationships are best cut off quickly and cleanly, the longer things go on the harder it gets.

Answer 11

People: never marry cops, they are never off duty, therefore 99% of them are allways currupt.

Answer 12

You file for child support, physical custody, at least joint legal custody and if need be, maintenance to give you time to become self supporting...it's NOT a windfall tho....understand it will end.

Family Court will decide if he can 'give' anything....use a lawyer that specializes in divorce if you can afford a retainer...goodluck.

Answer 13

If you want this to be permanent, see an attorney.    If you don't have the money, the attorney can make your husband pay his fees.   Don't let him intimidate you.    You have rights, just like everyone else.  You didn't say how many children you have, but they have a right to his support.   You need to find a job, if you are not working.   Don't let him intimidate you.   He has NO authority over you.   Get that??  

Answer 14

just because he's a cop doesn't mean he has authority more than you. divorce him. you sounds like and a##%#W@

Answer 15

Since this clown is apparently threatening you, if you have a cell phone with a recorder on it, learn how to use it.  If he calls your land line number and leaves any type of threatening message, report it to the phone company.  You have to start documenting stuff.  Write down those child support excuses and put the date and time on them.  Let your parents, friends, close neighbors, etc know what you are going through.   Don't go through this alone.

You need to get an attorney as soon as possible so you can get legal adivice on the separation, divorce, alimony, and child support.  You need to find out what your state requirements are for separation and divorce.  Take some time and write down all the things that led up to your moving out.  Include all the things that you did over that one year span to try to make your relationship work.   Your attorney will be able to use this.  

Do some research on the internet on dead beat dads.  There's plenty of non profit organizations that can steer you in the right direction.  

Good luck and be strong.

Answer 16

Just BLOW him off dear got a close friend going though the same thing it is crazy what a fool can turn out to be when they put a badge on him,he is a county employee and he will pay rather he likes it or not keep your foot planted good up his a%^ you will be fine  

Answer 17

Don't fear him, you are entitled to child support and maintenance, so go for it!

Answer 18

RESPECT HIS AUTHORATHEEEEE!

Answer 19

Don't let him intimidate you, f*ck the police, that was your first problem.  Cops are *****.  They always are.  I've never met a cop and was like, oh, what a nice guy.  Get a lawyer and if you catch him doing anything illegal note it, photo it, and he'll be in worse trouble than a civilian because he is a cop

Answer 20

He cannot do anything to you.  He NEEDS to pay, and if he doesn't you have to file for CS.  If he threatens you, you need to file a restraining order.  That's all we need is more power hungry cops!