Me and my husband( of 7 years) are considering on trying a 4some with another couple... is it a good idea??

Question

we've been married for 7 years and NEVER have had another s*x partner... the thought of being with another couple maybe fondling and kissing, turns us both on. is a good idea to try it out? or could it be hurtful to our relationship?

Answer 1

It is not a good idea and yes, it could prove harmful to your relationship. Don't do it. Find something else to spice up your s*x life that involves just the two of you.  

Answer 2

hello a marriage is between two people. how can you have s*x with another person. gosh!! wat if your husband falls for the other girl.

Answer 3

As long as you are mature and responsible about it, then there shouldn't be any problems

Lay out some ground rules, probably do it with someone you wont' see again, because you don't want it to be akward, and just make sure you "follow' the rules because thast what will mess anything up

Answer 4

It is a horrible idea in every way.  And it's a sin for sure.  Sin is a fleeting pleasure but you pay the consiquences!!!  Every person will answer to God.    

Answer 5

if you guys are both happy with the decision, go for it!

i don't think it would be hurtful to the relationship, just as long you guys trust each other,

a strong trust, it will be okay.

good luck :)

Answer 6

Maybe if neither of you have no contact with the other couple or if the other couples relationship is really strong. But it is a very bold move for a relationship of 7 years. Most of the time it's a bad idea though.  

Answer 7

This sounds like a temporary solution to a bigger problem. If you feel compelled to go outside your marriage for "thrills" its obviously saying that there is something terribly missing from your relationship. Why after only 7 years of marriage have you suddenly decided to be with another couple? Could it be that you don't really care for each other and would prefer to be someone else instead?  

Answer 8

No its not a good idea.

You took vows to "forsake all others",,DONT forget those vows.

And yes it could hurt your relationship cause either 1 of you could fall for the other person and then you will be sorry you ever did this.

If you value and respect your marriage then dont do it.

Answer 9

It's not a good idea.  What if your husband told you that he was more aroused with that other woman than you?  And you saw with your own eyes that he was enjoying s*x more with her than with you?  How would that make you feel?  This could create a lot of problems.  If he knows he can get better s*x with someone else, he'd do it more often if he could, but why stir the pot?

Answer 10

If you do it, you're headed for a heartbreak. So consider yourself forewarned.

Answer 11

No, I say go ahead, but make sure all four of you sit down and share any fears or qualms you have and SET BOUNDARIES, I know everyone has them. It's okay, you can do this without harming your relationship. It's been done.

Answer 12

I think it will open up a can of worms, that sacred bond between you both will be broken and will probably cause confusion.  I would not recommend it, keep it in your fantasies.

Answer 13

Do not do it!  There is a chance that you will find the other person more interesting than your husband, as he could find her to be more fun than you.  If you respect yourself, and your marriage you will keep it only as a thought!

Answer 14

There are many other ways to add spice to s*x without bringing another couple into it. There's SO many stories out there about how the spouses leave each other for the swap partner. It's rarely a good idea. Yes, very hurtful... but, if you're determined, do it. I personally wouldn't want to mess up a good thing.  

Answer 15

it depends on how strong your relationship is. Don't do it for him, if you aren't into it don't do it, because you regret it and hate him for it later just be sure

Answer 16

what i really do not understand is why do u guys like to involve other ppl in your marriages, then wonder why your marriages do not last or work out in the end, when u guys are the ones that opened the door to that kind of h**l in the first place by getting other ppl involved in your marriages, h**l no i do not think its ever a good idea for threesomes, foursomes, fivesomes or whatever, it is soo wrong on so many angles.

Answer 17

if your relationship with your husband is strong enough, then yes.

Answer 18

a marriage is supposed to be something special, think about it in reality when & if after it happens how are you going to feel about another woman touching him & how is he going to feel about another man touching his wife. fantasizing about is different then it really happening, it can cause problems & insecurities in both of you. It most likely wont just be fondling & kissing & you don't want to put yourself in that situation, don't you think maybe that just if your husband not wanting another man to touch you or you touch another man would actually show respect. its ok to fantasize but really doing it could cause issues are both of y'all really willing to take that chance of a marriage? there are other ways of spicing things up instead of that. i know that if i saw another woman on my man or kissing or fondling him i might kill her even in that situation, call me old fashioned but you both should really think about it hard.. & the risk of any diseases out there & risk of in the long run marital problems.

Answer 19

sounds like your both having a case of the "7 year itch", watch out, danger ahead, drive slowly!!!

Answer 20

It's a great idea, just be careful, set the rules beforehand and consider you both might get a little jealous. As long as you trust each other and both agree on everything, you'll be fine.

Answer 21

very hurtful to your relationship. yes, there is a sexual desire to do that. but u can share that with your partner.  

Answer 22

I think it could really be very hurtful to your relationship. It's not all that it's cracked up to be. Good Luck though!

-Cindy

Answer 23

well i am wondering why but its none of my business it could enhance yourself i am not sure but what happens if one of you like the other persona nd then get involved with the other one that has happened and then there goes the neighbor hood. oh well its for youu tofigure outt what you want to do.

Answer 24

verry hurts full..try doing some role playing and just talking about being with a couple when making love,do that see if you guys have fun,if you do go with a nother couple you looking for trouble,  your husband is always going to think the other guys is better ,or if you go with  the girl he going to think you will rather have a women then him,,dont do it please dont

Answer 25

No it was never a good idea. Two people having a relationship can have a hard time on adjustment how much more if you add two more people.

Answer 26

no, not at all... think about it, do you really want your husband seeing another woman naked?? i think that would just cause competition,  

Answer 27

If you both have talked it though, and have agreed on who you would like to invite in to your bedroom, then it shouldn't hurt. You both have to have a lot of trust and be totally comfortable in your relationship together. If you are unsure at all, then don't do it. If you and your husband have talked about it and picked a couple, then ask them. Don't expect an answer right then, most people aren't ready for that, and you don't want them to feel any pressure.

Answer 28

sound like the two of you're bore, some people claim it a good ideal but it would open up many hidden doors in your relationship. this kind of activity would be more harmful to your 7yrs relationship than you going out having an affair.

Answer 29

Never start anything you do not want to do down the road.  

Answer 30

You may be able to do this.  But don't do it if your marriage is at all unstable.

Try using pornography first, role play and see if you're comfortable with that exploration of other persons....

...if anyone walks away from these experiences with hurt feelings... then the 4some is a BAD idea.

...it really isn't healthy for your relationship to seek other sexual partners.  The fact that you're considering this is worrisome of the state of your marriage.

Be careful, and good luck

Answer 31

NO. You should not. That is a very very bad idea.

That isn't good at all.

If you go through with this, your marriage will fall apart.