Me and my mom don't get along.?

Question

First of all , my name is Lauren , this is my friend's account . I have 2 sisters , who are 11 and 9 . I am often angry and rude and bossy, and I think it is because of my mom. I don't want to be putting the blame on her for all my "issues" but one time I went away for the weekend for soccer, and when my friends mom dropped me off at home I wasnt even in the house before I could feel my moms angry vibes and she was yelling at me for something stupid. Today she was mad at me because my sister slammed the door of my room (very uncalled for)and I yelled for her to come back. She didnt so I went upstairs and was like come over here so I can talk to you! She didnt so I chased her and by mistake an into my mom. I took my sisters arm and told her what I had tried to tell her before "dont do that again and if you do pick up the stuff you dropped. you have to listen to me!" and then my mom was flipping because i was hitting her (I know i hit them sometimes and thats not nice but I didnt hit her.) My mom took my phone because I am selfish or something. I appologized about hitting her and she didnt say anything. Then I said if you dont accept, thats your problem. You arent my business. And she took my phone. I was so mad! She gave it back later and said "we'll talk about this with your father tonight!" as if he is the ultimate threat. They seem mad that I stand up to them , unlike the other people in their lives. I just don't know what to do . I really want to move out right now. Like, so bad. But I'm only 14. So, that;s out of the question. How can I put up with this for another FOUR YEARS !?

thanks for listening!

Answer 1

Sounds like my story but luckly my parents were divorced so I moved in with my dad.

I suggest you just do what your supposed to do then she has no reason to yell at you. If your siblings do something wrong take it up with your dad. Take up any of your problems with your dad. She might feel left out of your life but she needs to realize how you feel. The hurt that she will get from you not coming to her is the same hurt you get from her yelling.

Answer 2

It is so difficult to be 14...  I remember it so well!  And I remember that I too fought with my mother often. She was horrible to me, so much so, that she sent me a way to live with relatives in another state. She didn't want me & she made that very clear by having my cousin raise me. Was I that bad???  No, I don't think so, not any more than any other teen my age... I was a child & children are to be taught right from wrong, but they are mostly meant to be loved right along with that disapline.

I know that I pushed the envelope with my mother & I disrespected her. She deserved better than a no-it-all teenager's lip!  There were times I should have kept my mouth shut. And standing up to both of my parents thinking that I get to have the final say was way out of line...  How do I know? - Well, I live it...  I worked & went to school in a whole other town & state.  I was abandoned by my mother. Was she a poor mother? - of course she was.  Don't have children if you cannot love them for the faults & growing pains they will go through.

I am 40 yrs old...  and I too have teenagers of my own now. They will respect me - PERIOD!  But they also know that they are loved dearly!  

Try apologizing to your mom for giving her such a hard time, meaning take responsibility for your part in your arguements...  I bet you she loves you so much & she doesn't want this type of relationship either...  Salvage it now...  or like me, when you are older, you will not have a decent friendship with your mom!  

Answer 3

man !!! that sucks !!!!