Me and my partner are just not getting on no more?

Question

When we met it was love at first sight. We had both not long split up out of a bad relationship so when we met it was lovely to finally meet someone who treated me as good as it was back then. we were together we talked bout having a baby, and were together all of 3 months when i fell with our first daughter who is now 19 months old. so i think our time of getting to know each other was stolen in a way...we went on to have our second daughter who is now 4 months...all through the pregnancy we did nothing but argue but i put it down to hormones and looked forward to having her. things still haven't changed in fact they are getting worse. we do nothing but argue about everything and anything! I'm finding this hard to write cause there is so much to say but i don't know how to work it all. I just feel that we are drifting apart we hardly ever cuddle up together or even go out,we have the chance to but it just don't happen. s*x is not all that great its hardly ever and its nothing to be proud about. i want it to work but i am so unhappy i don't think its fair on our children to stay how we are. i think how we are is affecting out 19 month old as she is becoming very naughty and hard to deal with...i just don't know what to do no more....

Answer 1

If you all fight in front of your 19 month old then yes it is affecting her. You could try counseling. All couples fight. Fighting in front of your children changes them. If you feel like your time together was stolen then maybe your partner does to. Maybe you really were not ready for children. The fact that you think your time with him was stolen is something your children should not have to pay for. Good luck.