Me & my daughter are getting our ears pierced tomorrow. How can I chill out so my fear doesn't rub off on her?

Question

My daughter asked if she could get her ears pierced for Christmas. I refused, but said she could get them for her birthday if she still wanted them done (to give her a "cooling off" period).

A couple of weeks ago, we were planning her birthday party, and she suggested we have a "girly day", I'd get mine pierced too and then we both go to the Chinese Buffet for lunch, then go shopping. I thought it was a great idea at the time and agreed. I'm not going to back out of a deal, but while she can't wait to get her studs in, I'm terrified, and I'm worried that if I'm still cr@pping myself tomorrow, it'll rub off on her and she'll get the nerves too.

My husband is mocking me. He says I could give birth twice without wanting drugs, but the thought of a pair of tiny pinpricks has me terrified. The sensible bit of me knows he's right (for once), but it isn't the sensible bit that has me flapping. For her sake, I need to chill out and be totally calm - but how?

Answer 1

I total agree with Sabrina. She will love to know that you have a fear of getting your ears pierced. She will remember this forever. Have fun. Pain is temporary, this memory will be forever.

Answer 2

I've had six piercings, three in each ear. It only hurts for a second, and it's a pinch. maybe ask them if they would mind freezing your ears? It really depends on how much pain you feel.

just take deeeeeeeeeep breaths, think of something else.

Answer 3

Don't worry, the only thing you'll feel (if you go to a professional) is a little pinch, then some pressure on your ear lobe. It doesn't hurt at all, it's not very scary. Plus it only takes a minute or two for both ears. As long as you don't get anything tangled onto the earring and keep twisting it after a few days, it'll eventually stop hurting. The most pain you'll feel is the day after, since your piercing will begin to heal. Nothing at all to worry about. :D

Answer 4

I got mine peirced when I was 9. The conversation between me and my mom went allitle like this: " how was school?"

"oh pretty good"

" great! By the way i set up an appointment and you're getting your ears peirced"

"...."

Yea but my piont is that there is no reason to be freaked.

It's doesn't hurt and if it does it's only for less than a second. So, relax, maybe do afew fun things before it. But don't get stresssed on little things like that.

Answer 5

ok honestly.. coming from one who HATES needles.  and I mean I hyperventilate when they get near me hate them.. I had my ears peirced twice..  its really not as bad as you're thinking it is honestly... and  ( I gave birth twice too but I had the drugs.) LOL!!  it's just a sharp pinch... let her go first  and breath deep breaths.. you're working yourself up over nothing...LOL!!!

Answer 6

Why be afraid to say that this scares you?  Just be honest without being overly dramatic.  Say to your daughter how brave you think she is.  Ask her to hold your hand.  Give her a chance to shine by "helping Mom"--you will bond through it.

Answer 7

why would you do something that terrifies you???  this is known as masochism.

Answer 8

Bravo for you mom -- but it really isn't that bad.  It will be overwith in no time and all you feel is a bit of a sting.  I think the day will be a big hit and you two will have a ball.  Look to the positive of being able to spend a whole day with your daughter shopping and having a great time.  By the time you get through lunch you will be laughing at yourself and the two of you can talk about how frightened you were.  You could even shop for earrings so that when the studs can come out you have pretty earrings to remind you of the special day you had together.  Good luck and have a fun day.

EDIT:  I have had three kids and my ears pierced twice!  I'll take ear piercing over child birth pain any day!  The two cannot be compared.

Answer 9

Chances are, she will laugh at you when you tell her you are scared. When kids feel like they are more brave than their parents or even have something to make fun of you for, they LOVE it! Give her morale a little boost. Let her know how you feel!

Answer 10

it's a pinch........

i'm afaid of needles etc.....

yet i have 8 ear picereings 4 per ear

it's all mental, try mind over matter " it's just a pinch"

all pain is mind over matter

Answer 11

my sister got her ears pierced a long time ago. she said that when you get pierced you can't feel it. but if that doesn't help, the day you get pierced, don't think about it. because if you do, you will get even more scared.

Answer 12

your duaghter will get nervous but not because of you i was not nervouse when i wanted it done. but when it wa going to happen i freaked but  i went on with it.  it doesn't even hurt at first but at the end its itchy. but you will just have to be calm. you are the adult there and your daughter is counting on you.

Answer 13

Have her go first and when she if brave you will feel foolish if you cr@p your pants. Good luck to you.