Me n my husband have been married for 8 months and we never have s*x or r affectionate whats wrong? is it me?

Question

he used to be real affectionate with me? we dated 2 years before marriage and at first he couldnt keep his hands off of me.i haven't really changed that much since we married. I've gained about 15 pounds but i'm still under 130pounds. is it because of that? I really dont think he is cheating? is it he's just not attracted to me anymore? Help me from a guys perspective...

Answer 1

130lbs is NOT obese for a woman!!! I am 5'7 and weigh 135lbs.

obese is when you can't even lift your arm to scratch your own back and being bedritten..not because of pregnancy but because you're too d**n big

Answer 2

Maybe he feels like he's not getting exactly what he wants and has lost interest..  It's not as interesting for me if my wife isn't passionate, if I always remind her we need to have s*x but she never tries to seduce me on her own, things like that.  He might just feel like he needs a more exciting s*x life.

On the other hand it might be he's not satisfied with another part of the marriage (outside of s*x)..  Maybe you two could use some better communication..  I wouldn't openly just say "hey what's wrong" but just talk to eachother and try to dig little by little and see what the problem is with him.

Answer 3

Watch this movie:

DIARY OF A MAD BLACK WOMAN.

That should give you a good look on things.

Answer 4

Nothing wrong with you, something wrong with him.  I've been married for 14 years and I still can't keep my hands off my wife.  She's not under 130 lbs either (sorry, dear), but she still turns me on.

Answer 5

sounds like a normal marriage to me ;) but hey sit him down and talk to him if its bothering you. never jump to conclusion and think he's cheating on you. and its not that hes not attracted to you, ive gained weight too in my marriage and my husband is still the same towards me. there guys they dont notice that stuff. so just talk to him.

Answer 6

if your that horni, RAPE HIM! i allways works. Use zippy ties to bound him to the bed ;).

Answer 7

i think you dhould visit a doctor,,,,8 month is long period

Answer 8

HOW ARE YOU ALL DOING FINANCIALLY  .ARE YOU ALL UNDER ANY KINDA STRESS IN  NOT HERR AREA OF YOUR MARRIAGE BESIDES THE s*x. DO YOU OR HIM HAVE ANY MEDICAL CONDITION THAT MAY BE EFFECTING HIS SEXUALLY DESIRES .EXAMPLE  DIABETES ,HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE

Answer 9

Please do NOT listen to gingy.  What an ignorant thing to say!  Sounds like something is wrong with him, but you've just gotten married so things should still be fun and spicy.  Talk to him and ask what the problem is, or just get a little wild with him.  Crawl on top of him in the middle of the night or go by work on his lunch break and give him a quick BJ.  Send naughty pictures to his cell phone.  He'll love it.

Answer 10

Try harder...  Go buy some lingerie...  Go rent a porno.  He is probably still attracted but you both need to put some effort into this.

Answer 11

do the first move..

Answer 12

1. 130lbs is pretty obese for a WOMAN....sorry.

2. He's just used to you now...before your a NEW fresh...untouched brand new stranger chick....now your that everyday sight he wakes up to...

Answer 13

well my hubby is not affectionate with me either, after awhile it fades, we still love each other, and have s*x tho, so I would just talk to him not us... communication is the key...

Answer 14

My guys perspective is to send you to a place where you can learn how to communicate and get your mate to answer these questions instead of us out here.........

google: relationship tips and learn how to make a good relationship.

Answer 15

you gotta start getting horny with him and then he'll get in the mood

Answer 16

May be there is no chemistry there are you are both too stressed  and tired to.. only you know why

Answer 17

Gingy are you nuts 130lbs is NOT obese far from it.

He is probably cheating on you.