Meeting the new woman when there are kids involved?

Question

Would it be right or wrong to demand to meet the new woman that your ex hooked up with? This woman is now around your kids. It seems as though there is a problem with the ex wanting to make an introduction.

Answer 1

It is very wise to meet someone who is going to be involved with your children. However, don't go with hostility in your heart. You need to go knowing that this impression you make will affect your children.  Be nice, be the adult, say hello and let her know how much you love your children and you hope that if there is ever any problem, she will feel comfortable talking things over with you.

If you go over there and blast her and try to act tough, you'll ruin things for those children.  If she wants to act like an idiot, let her, but you be professional, kind and approachable.

Answer 2

There isn't nothing wrong with meeting the new woman who would be in your kids life at least you get to learn with them how she is.  I know I want to know and meet every female the father of kids has in his life that he feels comfortable around to bring my kids around.  I need to know if it somebody that I know or know anything about already.

Answer 3

You should absolutely meet the women that is now involved with your ex. I think you have a right to meet the person that is now a "mother" figure in his life. I have a 12 year old son and thankfully I am very good friends with my ex and his wife. It is important for you to know what kind of person she is. It will put you at ease when your children are around her. it may be hard to meet her if you still have feelings for your ex but you will have to put those feelings aside and remember that you are doing something that is best for your children. At the same time, if you end up not liking her, it could make things harder for your relationship with the ex. Remember, it is his choice who he dates and hopefully he is smart enough to not have some crazy women around his kids. I would hope that he is doing what is best for your children as well.

Good luck! I know it is a hard situation. I have been blessed with a womderful step-mother for my son with whom I love dearly. My ex made a great decision. I actually trust her more sometimes then his own dad! :)