Men, can you answer this...do you think he sees me as easy now?

Question

My mechanic- owns his shop. He flirts with me and flashes money around me. I do like him money aside (im not a gold digger- i own my own house, car, and have a job, dont have kids...just need a GOOD man)

He's way older than me I guess 50s...im in my 30s

I dont see him much but when i do, he does a lot of service on my car for free. One day I called him and offered to treat him to coffee or a meal to thank him for all the work that he's done on my car for free. He told me that wouldn't be necessary. I feel so stupid now. My thoughts are that if he liked me he would have taken me up on the offer just to have a chance to go out with me. I did actually ask him just to get to know him better.

Do you think i made a "dumb chick" move???

Answer 1

Yes.

And if he won't even take a free meal from you you must look like a boiled horse.

Q-Tee: grownups can see ugly people too.

Answer 2

No, not a dumb move, but maybe he wants to be the aggressor.

Answer 3

I'm not a guy sorry, but I think he's sending way mixed signals and I think what you did was a smart bold gesture. You just feel unsure about it because you put yourself out there and got rejected. It's okay it happens to all of us but I would have judged he was into you by what you said. Maybe he has reservations about going out with you because he's so much your senior or maybe he wants to ask you out. Idk but you didnt make a dumb chick move. It was subtle and classy....

Answer 4

You are beautiful and eyes see all the beautiful things more precisely in opposite s*x.

Answer 5

Maybe he is in a relationship or married? I'm sure mechanics won't wear a wedding ring to work.

Answer 6

The polite Aussie response for work undertaken gratis is a slab of beer.  Maybe next time you have the car serviced, you could throw one on the passenger seat with a card to say thanks...  

If you are genuinely interested (which you didn't make real clear), just be direct and honest in inviting him out next time you see him - he may have felt put "on the spot" or not quite got the message?  Generally guys don't critique an invitation like that too in-depth.  He might just be being nice, or polite, but if you are truly interested, don't miss out on what might be for a simple missunderstanding (or politeness)...