Men, do you respect or want a woman who plays games back at you?

Question

Do men really want honesty and directness from women when they are first dating or becoming interested in them, or do they like playing games with women who play the games back with them? Do men like a challenge, someone who plays hard to get or a woman who easily submits to his charms? Or a little of both? What works with you?

Answer 1

I appreciate honesty and directness in ALL of my relationships, be they romantic, platonic or professional.  In terms of dating: emotional intimacy is challenging enough just as it is :-)

Personally, if someone is interested in me, they are probably better off at least dropping pretty heavy clues. Many men do worry about creeping women out, including seeming overly interested when the woman does not appear to be into him. Even if i'm head over heels for some girl, if she seems disinterested i will hide it in order to avoid risking our friendship or making her feel uncomfortable.

Answer 2

Playing any type of game takes skill and or talent.  You can't just have a girl attempting to play games when she has no idea what she's doing.  There's subtlety involved which makes 'game playing' successful. -- It's harder than it looks.  So no, I wouldn't recommend every woman try this unless they understand what they are doing.

Answer 3

Mind games for the most part are just childish.

        But a mix between directness and honesty with a tad dash of seduction and a little sprinkle of teasing makes for a great time.

      

      Head games just leaves me thinking "is this person right in the head? Or trustworthy?"

What is the point of head games? To keep the person guessing? Might be fun for a short bit but why would a person want to be in a relationship with someone they couldn't rely on, or count on there reactions?

Since respect is earned.. how can you respect someone you cant trust?

Answer 4

I don't like any game playing.

An honest representation of who you are and what you're about is best.

Women often "shoot themselves in the foot" without knowing it by playing hard to get.

My philosophy is that if there's no s*x in the first few dates ,that means there is no chemistry and any more effort is just a waste of both of our time.

Answer 5

games=manipulation (some of it is really low level that i dont care about)

no i dont find it amusing, if someone wants to play them ill play back, and most likely win.

Answer 6

plays games back at me

makes the challenge more fun

Answer 7

Honesty and directness is good, to a certain point.  There is such a thing as "too much", however, esp. on a first date.  Throwing it all out there right away makes a person look too needy, and that draws people away from you.  At the same time, though, if you're asked something that might violate these rules, by all means go ahead and say it.  Putting it all out there right away is too overwhelming, too.  In this day, esp if you're responding to a personal ad or something, you should realize that you're not the only person that this person's checking out right now.  And for that reason, too much can be too much for the person to remember right now.

As for game playing, though, that depends on the man, but again, making yourself seem too available is usually a bad thing.  

(Not sure if you're looking for advice, but I'm gonna keep on talking...)  A good way to do this is to set the time of the dates yourself.  If you feel guilty about lying about when you'll be free, then do something to have an excuse incase he asks you what you did.  If someone asks me if I'm free right now I always say yes (unless I really do have something else to do), though its almost like I find myself thinking up things to do so that I'm not always available.

The opposite is booring, too ("submitting to his charms").  It makes you seem to predictible and dependent, and though its nice to be able to direct the course of things, sometimes you really want the other person to have a freakin opinion.