Men, does it hurt just as much?

Question

to get rejected covertly as opposed to having it spelled out for you?

1. For ex, you always approach a particular girl, and she begins to completely ignore you.

2. You try to tease her and she simply looks at you bored.

3. She yells at you because you always get too close to her.

4. She ignores you when you angrily try to get her attention.

Etc etc

Answer 1

Don't go around with that covert rejection c**p. All it says is, "I'm a spineless coward who doesn't respect you enough to tell you how I feel and I'm OK with leaving you confused as long as I don't have to be mature and face the problem."

We, as I species, have developed the ability to communicate complex ideas through speech. Use it.  

Answer 2

I prefer direct communication.

I ask women out DIRECTLY or flirt with them DIRECTLY. If they ignore me, I move on to the next.

I would rather a woman tell me she is not interested than try to "show" me she is not interested. But from my experience, women almost always choose to SHOW a lack of interest. This only makes things more confusing.

Advice for both men and women:

-Men: Focus on results. If you don't get them.. WALK AWAY

-Women: SAY what you mean and mean what you say

Answer 3

I think there are two problems here ,,,,

She's immature

and

Your desperate

You should take a hint and not push if she's already ignored your advances and made it clear she doesn't want to know .... there's no point in getting angry - she has a right to not want to go out with you....

She should, if she hasn't already, just say 'thank you for the compliment' and then politely actually say to you she's not interested...

All this silliness of  shouting at each other and embarrassing each other, in public it seems, is so immature .....

The adult way of dealing with things is to just speak to each other, no shouting or teasing, and accept what the other says .... you can't have a relationship with only one participating partner ....

:(

Answer 4

Live and learn from your mistakes. If one fails to learn from mistakes the word "fool" is appropriate to use.

  

Answer 5

No, just move on...complete waste of time and energy

Answer 6

I would not really care. Before it got to the variables in your question she would have been dumped. Who needs the estrogen drama.  

Answer 7

You really need to be more direct with men. Its not that we are stupid, its just that we are used to women behaving in ways that can mean different things at different times e.g. being ignored can mean your gf has had a really bad day, or has PMT, or you have forgotten an anniversary of some kind, or you have not noticed her new hairdo etc etc.

Ladies: please spell it out to us.

Answer 8

1. For ex, you always approach a particular girl, and she begins to completely ignore you.

A. Of course, since when has this been something that wouldn't bother someone?

2. You try to tease her and she simply looks at you bored.

A. Of course, since when has this been something that wouldn't bother someone?

3. She yells at you because you always get too close to her.

A. Of course, since when has this been something that wouldn't bother someone?

4. She ignores you when you angrily try to get her attention.

A. If he actually has to go this far...Wow.

Just tell him.

Answer 9

Not at all, Most likely she is a L*****n

Answer 10

I suppose it's the same whether its and woman getting rejected or the man.

Answer 11

Yes it does.  While we have gotten used to rejection, it still stings.  

Answer 12

Hurt as much I have no way of knowing, because I cannot get inside a women's skin, though sometimes I would like to :) :)  ,  to find out what is going through their head. But rejection hurts big time for me. The last time I checked I was a  man