Men, is this common male mentality...?

Question

I know a woman who's husband was caught using the backs of their wedding pictures as scratch paper! The photos were technically unharmed but she of course was hurt that he shows such little regard for their wedding memories. He says she's crazy for being upset, she says he just doesn't care...men why would he do such a thing?

Answer 1

No it’s not a common mentality for men, I think he just seems like an emotionally void troglodyte; it’s not fair to base and idiot like him on the whole male gender.  

Answer 2

Well i mean if the wedding photos are in an album nobody see's the backs anyway, so who cares?

I think he was inconsiderate, but i think she overreacted, there just photos, and they were unharmed.

Both were at fault.

Answer 3

No, certainly that is not mainstream mentality for the average man. You have much to learn girl.. It is a tough call with such little information. He may indeed not care however there is more to be considered here : Perhaps he thought they were another set of photographs. Let's just say it was a minor oversight with no ill intent in lieu of attempting to create a civil case of domestic discord to build on toward divorce proceedings.. Leave it at that, I'd advise her to lighten up, & stop attempting this gender profiling..

Answer 4

jeesh ya complain when i don't write down the phone messages

ya complain when i do. :-p

seriously when i read this i thought of the tv show where the guy used the marriage license to balance the recliner.

sacred is as sacred does.

I doubt this is common male mentality  

Answer 5

He's just ignorant among many things. Not all males are like that. I wouldn't even call him a man.  

Answer 6

It's not common male mentality as all men don't write anything on the backs of pictures :P.  

Yep.  Pictures are precious to everybody, that's for certain.  I'd be really upset if someone marked all over my pictures or anything...however...I don't know about the back of the picture.  It's usually a place for information about the picture or a message or something related to the picture.  As to why he did such a thing, you should ask him, not men.  We all don't think the same or pee the same either, if you know what I mean.

I'm starting to wonder if these questions are common woman mentality...of course it is okay for her to post a question like this right? :P.  If it was a man..well..goodness, we'd be in the wrong.

But if he needed scratch paper and it wasn't available...maybe that was the closest thing available...Who knows.   I can imagine that some people (maybe even myself a little bit) would use the back of a picture as scratch paper or something as I've done it before but I didn't do it because I didn't have any regard for the picture or anything, but I did it because it was probably a blank side of a picture which probably had nothing on it...and maybe some scratch paper wasn't available..I don't know.  If it was a picture of a house or grass, would you say the same thing?  The presentation wasn't messed up...what is there to be presented on the back if nothing is there?

But I do disagree with him using the back of the picture though :P He could have used toilet paper or his hand :P..but I don't know.  Only he knows.  BUt I'm sure he cares about the wedding picture itself because if he didn't, he would have marked all over it a long time ago or even thrown it out.

Answer 7

h**l NO. To assume that this is common male mentality, it's quite an insult to people like me. I would never do that.

Answer 8

I am beginning to wonder if this is a common woman mentality?

To assume that all men show such disregard, is..amazing! I mean yea, the woman may be all flustered and emotional on a wedding day, but to assume that the man would use the wedding photo as scratching paper...that's just ridiculous.

Answer 9

Why did his wife hide all the note paper?

Gee..get a sense of humor. He messed up thats all!  

Answer 10

I find that people of both sexes are guilty of such disregard for what others value, if they dont happen to value it too.

I had a woman rip UP pictures of something SO important to me, they were irreplaceable...and she got rid of them.

Because they meant nothing to her.

And neither did how I was going to feel if she did this.

I never forgive it.

Answer 11

that's just how we are. sorry

Answer 12

It is not common, and I wonder what sort of life you have had that would lead you to make such a suggestion.

Answer 13

Gosh I hope not.  Hmm you know, some of us are actually sentimental.  And sh! this is a secret, but a few of us have a heart while some <sh! don't tell the feminists!> have a soul.

Answer 14

some people are sentimental some are not.

But this question could easily be seen as insulting.

If I picked out a misconceived stero type about women and asked is this the common female mentality I am sure you would be deeply offended.

Answer 15

It is insulting to me to compare all men to some neanderthal that is to lazy to find a piece of paper to write on.  

Answer 16

h**l, I don't even know where my mine are. And for that matter, I don't even remember the day that the ill - fated event took place...

Answer 17

We don't care.  

Answer 18

Not at all.  My husband cares more about things like that than I do (though I do care about them).  He can tell you the date we first met, what I was wearing, when we first kissed, etc.

Answer 19

Maybe there should be to sets of prints, one I can write on and the other she can have.?

Answer 20

I wouldn't do such a thing, sounds like she married an idiot.

*What is scratch paper BTW?