Men, which form of inequality are you MORE comfortable with? Why?

Question

When making your answer, please take into consideration the likelihood that you will be personally affected by either of these things:

1. Inequality in law: losing custody to the mother just because she's the mother, any accusations of abuse or harassment resulting in presumption of guilt, quota-based affirmative action policies, etc.

2. Inequality in relationships: arranging and paying for all dates, giving all gifts, being expected to be the provider and protector, etc.

And, no, I don't think the above legal inequalities exist in the majority of cases; I expect judges to be smarter than that.

Answer 1

Probably the first one, because if it exists, it's inescapable.

The nice thing about rotten dating situations is that they can all be solved with a simple breakup (or a simpler conversation, if you're into dating open-minded people).

Answer 2

It now comes down to which inequality are we comfortable with.  I choose #2 because #1 means less time to be with your child.  And the presumption of guilt based upon one's gender.  

Answer 3

2

i want to see my own children

Answer 4

More comfortable?  I'm not comfortable with either, but I think #2.  If I pay for stuff and I protect a girl who I'm dating, that's not only to be expected, but it really doesn't have any major ramifications if things don't go well.  I can leave her and be done with it if things aren't going the way I want.

If you pick a parent because she's a female, that could destroy a child's life.  If the mother were a crack-addict and part-time prostitute and the father was an upstanding citizen who paid his taxes and never hit anyone, that's a terrible decision to make for the child.  The poor kid has to grow up in a dangerous environment, simply because of the gender.

The same with me not getting hired because I'm not a female.  Quotas are s*x descrimination.  Gender should have no play whatsoever, either way.  If there are 15 applicants, half are female, and none of the females are as skilled as the males, it's okay to have an all-male team or company.

And so on and so forth.

Answer 5

Obviously the relationships because the law is far less negotiable. Can you imagine trying to explain to this women why you wanted to go for a few beers with the boys instead of coming home to watch the latest Hugh Grant weepie?

http://img.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2007/07...

For those who don't recognise the judge its Vera Baird, one of the main supporters of the new UK laws that say that a woman is justified in killing a man if she is sufficiently insulted

http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk/2008/jul/29...

Answer 6

I'm more comfortable with 2.  It reflects an attitude over which I have at least some control.  #1 reflects an existing bias which legally devalues men.

Answer 7

Number 2.  

Answer 8

Hey Rio, go ahead and send me gifts.  If I like them, I might allow you to pay for a date.

number 1 is legal/ethical

number 2 is emotional

The concept of feminism and equality is based logically.  But the interpersonal interaction of men and women will still be heavily emotional.  Emotions trumps logic many times (both men and women).

Answer 9

I am more comfortable with the second one.  If it bothers me, I can always end the relationship.  If enough men are bothered, culture will change because both men and women are lonely without each other.  

Answer 10

You mean we have the choice?

Presently it looks more like we have the choice of what to fight for.

And which to tolerate.

We already are being affected by them.

Answer 11

The 1st example is clearly legal sexism or fascism or feminazism or whatever you want to call it.



The 2nd example isn't really an example of inequality or at least it wasn't, as the female component played an important role as the other half of the team.

I'm sorry, the question isn't straightforward enough for me. The first option is in the context of family law and second seems like it might be about dating traditions and protocol ???

Answer 12

The two types are not exactly comparable, yet 2 is far less dangerous and I much prefer that (though I do not date and I do not have kids).

Answer 13

I don't prefer  anyone of them, but most of men in the third world suffer from the second one

Answer 14

1.Yes, Mrs Doubtfire is a very emotionally gripping movie.

2. Dating isn't nearly as complicated and costly as you make it out to be.

Answer 15

I tried to answer this but I don't judge men and women's differences as an equation. What works for some does not work for others.