Men, women, your opinions on this?

Question

Okay, so I had a lil chat with my wife, and she thought i should watch 'Chasing Amy' because it's a perfect example of why men shouldn't be insecure about having a relationship with someone who had a lot of partners. She thinks that notion of being insecure because a person's past doesn't judge their affections toward you.

My argument was that if i was ever to be single, i couldn't date any woman with a lot of partners because lack of experience or 'size' would mean we would'nt work sexually (my wife was a virgin until she met me). I wouldn't be the 'greatest' and she'd always have better and hence it would get old. OR she'd already have 'been there and done that' so for her s*x would just be more subtle and not needed as much, while i'd still crave it.

Her argument is that it's just dumb to think a girl would leave me because of my inexperience and/or not as good as her past, and that she wanted me at the present time and that should only matter.

But I think that unless every other dude was just either a dud or average sized (size matters when someone is promiscuous, not so much when a woman's is just built tight or a virgin), then with all of her 'great moments' there will be that chance of a mid-life crisis and wishing she had some of those great moments that i can't provide. We can be great together all we want, but if the sexual field of the relationship lacks then eventually that can cause problems.

So my question is what do you people think?

Answer 1

i think that women are very emotional creatures and when they fall for you nothing matters so there is no need to be insecure.  But when that fantasy love starts to die off and you don't have what it takes you can say good by to your woman

Answer 2

opinions on what exacly ? the way i see it at a married woman is that my husband takes me to places i have never been sexually , i am his first he is my first we together for 15 years and never did or was this a question at one stage my husband was not happy with his size and we sorted that out got it bigger and we gowing on - if this is a question to you the next one will be about affairs in a marriage - get over yourself stop doubting am i good enough ? is it hat she wants ? s*x is about communicating on a diffrent level and more - enjoy your wife you chose her and she you - good luck - seems harsh but the truth  

Answer 3

Am I on glue or wasn't "Chasing Amy" about a L*****n that a man chased? All that should really matter is what's going on with you guys now and how you feel about each other. My bf is younger than me, is less experienced than me, but he's good for me and all I could want in a partner.

Answer 4

ummm I don't think size matters too much i think women get stretched out when they have kids not thru s*x

Answer 5

how many partners have you had?  We all make mistakes in life or in the heat of the moment.  Its great your wife was a virgin when she got married I think you are insecure

Answer 6

I think you need to get over yourself and your size insecurity. Learn to use your tool better and stop fixating on other people's performances. s*x is not a competition sport. Just relax and enjoy it, like we do.

Answer 7

know what you are married now get over it she is with you whats the problem grow up and take it like a man i am sorry but all you have to do is say do i love her if yes get over it if no then leave  

Answer 8

1 she is not you #2 what she thinks is all that matters #3 there is no #3 and do not raise your eyebrow at me

Answer 9

Mhh nothing wrong with either

Answer 10

I think you are a silly silly man and that is just silly. as a women who had her fun in her day i never judged the man i married (size) related to other i had been with. and I have never felt a been there done that attitude. I did not marry for s*x. I married for love and friend ship and openness and the desire to spend the rest of my life with this man. If all you have is s*x and a tight V then i hope to god your girl never has kids.

There is more to s*x then a tight V or the size of the P.

And no women do not judge men's p size. I will tell you that the most s**y things a man does for a women has nothing to do with his p***s at all.  

Answer 11

The mistake would not being how many partners were had, but marrying someone who did not satisfy you sexually.  I have had my share of partners and honestly, my husband is the best.  I didn't marry him because he was the best, but I am glad he is, because I might find myself longing for something I had in the past.  So i could see how it would be a problem, but for me, s*x is important in a relationship and I would not marry someone who could not satisfy me sexually.  I don't think it really has anything to do with the amount of partners, if you suck you suck, if your good your good.  Your wife doesn't know anyone but you, so no she doesn't have anything to compare it to, but when you love someone and are ina relationship, you really don't go around comparing.  I never compared my husband to anyone else, because it wasn't just about that.  I have slightly confused myself, but I hope you can see some light in my words...ha ha

Answer 12

Very well put statement.  Mostly it seems to say you are not secure in yourself and place too much emphasis on s*x and size.  The bond is more about honesty, support, attention, helping, and sharing....and if there are children, about their care and development.  Your statement helps me think every married couple should have had multiple partners before the marriage, then they can be more relaxed knowing what is really important.  Good wishes.