Men: Is nagging a huge turn off for you and if so, why?

Question

My fiance stopped wanting to have s*x with me. We'd go seven days before FINALLY I'd just ask him if we could. I started thinking maybe he wasn't attacted to me anymore, or bored or cheating.

Then on Monday I got this relationship book that talked about how much men hated nagging & how to get your man to do what you wanted without asking him over and over.

So I stopped nagging him and while I wasnt mean or cold, I gave him a little space.

The next day, he did all the stuff I normally nagged him about without being asked like washing the dishes & making the bed. He also came home early from work and after we went to the gym, he cooked me dinner. Later that night, we had s*x twice that HE intiated.

Is that a coincidence, or did all this really happen because i stopped nagging him and sweating the small stuff. (ie: he left a beer bottle on the counter, which i knocked over when i was reaching for something. normally i would have yelled at him for leaving it there, but i just got a broom and swept it up)

Answer 1

Here is this man goes out his way to please you and all you can do is complain.  h**l! that'll shut down any man's d**k.  Now there's a difference between arguing and complaining.  Some little arguments turn into fight and then 'make-up' s*x.  But to complain and nag of course that'll block you out.

Answer 2

Nagging is the worst. Bugger waterboarding, just put the terrorists in with my ex wife for a few hours.

That voice, like running a cheese grater down your spine after a while.

Answer 3

Nagging is absolutely a huge and total turn off. " I told you to take out the trash this morning and you forgot. The dog puked again and I can't handle picking it up. Don't forget we're going to my cousin's tomorrow. ", blah, blah, blah. After 3-4 hours of constant nagging about stuff a guy is expected to go to bed and desire his woman no matter what.

Unfortunately, incessant nagging makes most men put s*x at the very bottom of their list of desires. I cannot fathom having s*x with a woman that just spent the last 30 minutes - 1 hr nagging. I don't think I could even jerk off to p**n . Most women can't limit nagging to 1 hour, so that should tell you something. You wake up and it's nag, nag while you're drinking your coffee, and when you get home from work it's nag, nag until you go to bed.

Women get married and their man wants it 2-3 times a day at first. The more comfortable a woman is with her man and the longer they are together, the more she feels a need to nag after him. Next thing she knows, they're having s*x maybe once a week. Nag, nag, nag, did you pay the Visa bill yet, nag, nag, trash needs to go out, nag, nag, towels are folded like THIS and that doesn't go there, nag, nag, did you leave this wrench on the kitchen counter for a reason, nag, nag, ..... and now he might want to initiate s*x once every six months and even then will wake you up in the middle of the night to do it before you get a chance to open your complaining, nagging mouth and ruin it.

Once a woman starts to nag a man, she becomes more comfortable doing so and will find it hard to " turn it off", basically becoming a two legged nagging machine every waking moment. If the man isn't in earshot to hear the nagging, she will call him in a shrill pitch meant to aggrevate a man into answering for fear he'll have to hear it again.

Answer 4

my d**k... is sad

Answer 5

Barbie, you obviously have discovered one of the most common causes of the dreadful disease p***s limpus. Yes nagging will definitely inhibit a man's johnson and often men don't realize it. I was talking to a complete stranger at the grocery store the other day who volunteered that he had not had an erection in two years. I asked him if his wife was a nager. Looking confused he said "no...she is a white lady." Some people can't be helped.

Answer 6

There is no coincidence at all.  We should major on the minors but speaking to him as though he is an adult is what really made his day.  The key is to agree to disagree when problems come up.  This normally entails sitting down and talking about the small stuff.  With single mindedness and consistency he will continue to treat you as the jewel you really are.  

Answer 7

interesting -  i think it has more to do with being told what to do. many men - and even  women - feel a bruise on their ego if the are told what to do by others.

i think he just wanted to take things on his own terms

Answer 8

Well no duh nagging is a turn off. but we usualy just drone it out lol xD

Cheers!

And whoot! lvl 4!!!!!!!!!!! :D

Answer 9

A woman nagging to a man feels about the same as a man farting, scratching himself and always leaving his dirty underwear in the fridge to a woman.

Now you know how annoying/sh*tty it is?!

Hope this helps. :-P