Men: Separate Love/s*x?

Question

My b/f and me broke it off a couple weeks ago because he told me he wanted freedom to play the field, etc. Well, we stayed in contact & friends and called a lot and told me about a couple of his dates and we remained friends. I got asked out and went out to dinner with a guy and my "ex" called during my date several times. He was quiet at first, then while on my date....he also kept texting me 10 times, and called twice. His texts were "Are you still with HIM? Is he going to try and kiss you? Is he holding your hand? Does he want to see you again? Is he good looking? I'm sorry baby, please answer me, I'm going nuts here">>>>>

Later, he went on about how he was jealous and couldn't take the idea of another man holding my hand/kissing me or being romantic with me...upset that I might have been kissed...told me he went nuts over it and he was sorry but he loved me and is angry at himself for doing all this.

I told him that he clearly was in love with me and after all this time, he realized that fact. He begs me to come back, that he was sorry and that he loves me so much and does not want me dating other men.

He explains that men can separate love from "just s*x" ..is that true? And that he loves me but thought he could be free to stop the pressure he felt being so close to me, and he was confused. We women don't get the "separate s*x and love thing" too well.

What do you guys think?

Answer 1

Maybe he made a mistake, but probably not. Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too! You should probably move on now before you get hurt again.  

Answer 2

"Playing the field" is a load of c**p.  If he truly loved and respected you, he wouldn't have given you that line.  If he just wants to have s*x with someone, that's fine--but not on your clock.  

Answer 3

WHAT A PIG! OH MAN THAT MAKES ME ANGRY. DO WHAT YOU WANT BABE.. JUST LIKE HE DOES WHAT HE WANTS. HE DITCHED YOU SO HE COULD SHOVE HIS STICK IN SOME HOLES. AND NOW WHEN YOUR MOVING ON AND TRYING TO DO THE SAME.. HE WONT LEAVE YOU ALONE. HES SO SELFISH. HE WANTS YOU ALL TO HIMSELF.. AND ANOTHER 10 WOMEN AT THE SAME TIME. I WOULD GIVE YOU A MEDAL FOR BEING FRIENDS WITH HIM.  

Answer 4

I'm NOT a guy. . . . .but I'll tell you what I think !!!!

KICK HIS SORRY, LOSER A$$ TO THE CURB. . . . .AND FORGET ABOUT HIM.  HE'S EMOTIONALLY CHALLENGED, INSECURE, AND DISASTER WAITING TO HAPPEN !!!!!!!!!!    Now. . . . .YOU'VE BEEN WARNED !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HAVE A NICE DAY !!!!

Answer 5

I think that he is a real jack ****.  I wonder why the players think that because they are "honest" that gives them a ticket to be a user.  Just shows how dumb they can really be.  Unless he is the one guy out there that had an "ah-ha moment" and now clearly understands that he is totally in love with you.  One big thing to look at is if he asked all that he was mirroring what he did on his date.  I once read about the Madonna/w***e theory.  I am recalling from memory on the exact term, but men desire a hooker and a housewife.  They need to satisfy their sexual lust but cant see their wife like that.  So I just help mine by being both just for him.  See if he can let YOU be all he desires, but don't let him treat you any way but the best.  Also I am curious as to what exactly he expects out of you and plans to do for you.

Answer 6

i say leave him alone. if he is that jealous he would hurt you.there is no tell what he done on his dates. kiss, s*x or what!!!

Answer 7

Men and Women can both separate s*x from love.

It depends on the personality of the person if they can do this.

I have separated s*x from love different times before.

The differents is the s*x only will not last long, because you will eventually want the emotional commitment and it will not be there.

The best s*x is when there is an emotional commitment with the woman.

Are you sure he loves you, or is it that he is jelous and controling and does not want you to be happy with another man?

Answer 8

LOOK IM NOT A GUY,BUT I THINK IF A GUY REALLY LOVES YOU N RESPECTS YOU,,,HE WONT NEED TO HAV s*x WITH ANYONE BUT HIS GF,,,OR WIFE,,,,AND ASK HIM WHAT HAPPENS IF HE BRINGS HOME A DEADLY DEASES TO U N U DIE BFOR YOUR 30...OR HE DIES,,,,PEACE,,IM NOT YELLING I CANT SEE GOOD SO I USE CAPS LOCK,,,,PEACE