Men: When you are condescending to a woman do you do it...?

Question

on purpose to make her feel small or does it just happen?

Answer 1

Wow, I didn't know I was condescending. I suppose it just happens.

Answer 2

I'm sorry, I don't mean to be.

Answer 3

I really do not think that they are aware of it much. The most common one is being called by a pet or intimate name by a total stranger. Men do not do this to other men, and the only women I hear doing it are elderly, but many men think nothing of calling a complete stranger who is female 'darling' ,'love', sweetiepie', whatever is culturally 'acceptable'. I always want to say 'as you do not know me from a bar of soap do not presume to call me by a pet name', but I do not wish to have constant conflict in my life, so I have to let it go.

I would imagine that men like this have little awareness about how their behaviour affects other people in other areas too.

Answer 4

I am not a man, but if you get educated on how men work they aren't being condescending, we have different communication styles. Men genuinely do say it like it is and often they don't understand why we are such b*****s in how we speak about people.

I think once you gain understanding by reading books as cliched but valuable as "men are from mars and women from venus...." or "why men can't listen and why women can't read maps" you'll understand that 90% of the time what we as women perceive as a put down is actually simply a matter of fact statement - just not put conversationally as is our style of communication.

Answer 5

I never do,and not all men are like that,there are just as many woman like that...

Answer 6

I use to sugarcoat everything i said to women. I got ignored or ran over. I no longer do that, i say like it is.  Women take it as condescending, no offense, but i don't apologize or explain. Your lack of understanding on your part does not constitute and explanation on my part.

Answer 7

For one i do not thank I'm better or above her in the first place so no.

Answer 8

I usually am returning the favor.

Answer 9

I guess the "condescending phenomena"....for males is the same as for females...

you are probably tired....maybe sick...burnt out.... male and females alike have hormonal/chemical changes throughout their lives....

and of course the environmental factors.....stress, break down in communication, respect, etc....

remember, we can only become victims through our own volition...

Answer 10

the question implys that its a foregone conclusion that i am condesceding(but im tired may have read it wrong). and its always on purpose if i did it without realising i wouldnt realise so how would i remember, and if i condecend its for a reason i treat all people the same

Answer 11

If I am condescending to women I don't know it, and it does just happen. I try to use the old treat others as you would like to be treated...

Answer 12

I'm not a man, but I think it's just socialization.  Most men aren't bad people, and they're not talking down to you on purpose.  They've just absorbed our society's message that we're mostly ornamental!  Just be patient and don't react with anger.  Just become more educated than them.