Men and marriage? What to do?

Question

Ok so we both have sons and my son calls him dad and his son calls me mom. Yet he says he wants to go slow, but I think its to late for that. we have an account together and we are thinking of getting a home loan together plus we already live together. So we have the married life already so should I just let the marriage idea go for now? I love him but im ready

Answer 1

well life is going great.so why do you need that piece of paper?and for a key reason why he might be blowing you off is ,does he own the house your living in?if so,well you can finish that story.

Answer 2

You're the proverbial cow providing the free milk.

If you don't want more for yourself, then there ya go.

Answer 3

going slow is an excuse

as a man I can tell you that for a fact I will never marry again.  I'm sure the relationship is fine just the way it is and marriage is merely a piece of paper.  I'd say don't ruin a good thing and let it just be what it is.

it is what it is.  enjoy it or risk pushing him away when you start pushing the marriage idea

you both have been down that road already once before obviously.  try this one out for a change.

Answer 4

Ok, you love him, but you need him to sign a contract?  

At least when you're not married you know that he is there because actually wants to be with you.  That's something a lot of married people can't say about their spouse.

Answer 5

Sometimes if you force an issue you destroy the relationship. Let it go for now and see how he feels down the road. Don't rock the boat.

Answer 6

Doesn't sound like he wants to get married....You have an account together, living together and thinking of getting a home loan together...but he wants to take things slow??  LOL....sounds like he is making excuses...why should he want to make it legal?  He is getting all the benefits of marriage without making it official...and by the way...It is a BAD idea to get a home loan with someone you aren't married to...BAD BAD BAD!!

Answer 7

He doesn't need to marry you.  You're already playing family with him anyway.  He has all the benefits of marriage with none of the legal obligation.  That's what sometimes happens when you shack up.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

either he's scared of commitment, or he's not sure you're the one.

just give him time i guess, that's all you can do for now. don't force him to propose, but also let him know u want to be w/ him 4evaaa

Answer 10

If I were you, I'd draw out your share of the account and change the locks on the door and pack his stuff and set it on the porch because he's using you.

You could check if there is "common law marriage" in your state though.

Recommend you do not purchase a house together until you are married.

Answer 11

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