Men and motorcycles.....????

Question

Does anyone have the slightest clue why almost every man wants a motorcycle? I don't get it! My husband wants one really bad and I don't want him to get one because it is unsafe. We have a new baby and if something were to happen to him, I don't know what my baby and I would do. Is it wrong of me to tell him no?

Answer 1

Um, accidental death insurance? Should have it with or without a motorcycle, God knows cars and walking across the frickin' street is 100% safe, DAH

Answer 2

Yeah, you're wrong. But dat's ok if he loves you.

Answer 3

Remember when s*x  was safe and motorcycles were dangerous !

more people die in car accidents than bike crashes  

Answer 4

Well for one thing the power to weight ratio is off the charts. You can get 500lbs of metal between your legs with over 100hp. Reason number 2 being they are cheaper than a 3000lb car with the same power to weight ratio (over 600hp). Reason number 3 being men love new exciting things.

I think it's fine that you tell him no though if you two can work something out where he still gets to have some fun going fast and working on an engine with substantially less risks that would be the best way to go.

I'd like a motorcycle myself but I know it's stupid to drive one on the streets the way motorists drive these days. One moment it's the wind in your hair the next it's a girl's Toyota Corolla. If my girlfriend refused to let me drive one on the streets I'd thank her but I still would kinda like to have one for track use.

Answer 5

if he wants something new and exciting, then let him choose..... a bike or a girlfriend, either will fit the bill

i bet you'll choose bike too, you should thank him for choosing bike

Answer 6

If he's one of those guys that wants a bike this week, a new rifle next week, an airplane the next and a speedboat the following, stick to your guns.  If he's a sensible guy, don't stand in his way because every one needs something of their own.  Sure, you can use the old guilt trick to talk him out of buying one, but soon you'll soon start abusing that power.  Him being a decent guy, he'll try to please you and do what you want, but take my word for it because I'm speaking from experience, over time resentment will build.  Tell him to go for it with the stipulation that he take a safety training course.  If he's resonable and responsible enough to own a bike, he'll agree to the course with no problem.  If he refuses to take the course, say no and stand your ground until he does.  

Answer 7

you can't tell him no but suggest waiting until your kids are grown.

Answer 8

No, I can't explain why I ride. I've tried many times, and it always comes out different. They are NOT unsafe, at all. You would do the same thing if he got creamed in the car. What you could do instead is insist he take approved training courses. Help him to be as safe as possible. Assist him in picking out proper clothing and safety gear.

As another poster mentioned, saying "No" could possibly be resented. That's not good for a relationship. It's entirely possible to support your husbands desire, yet maintain your influence as well.

Answer 9

You are indeed wrong in telling him a flat "no." You would be in the right trying to persuade him to wait until the baby grows up some (I would be comfortable with my own future children being 12-13 when I start riding again) although if he wants it bad enough he will do what my father did and buy it behind your back so thats not a good option. I think your best bet is to tell him that if he wants one he has to conform to a set of rules ie full gear everytime he rides no exceptions, take multiple rider safety courses, and he can't go over a certain speed for a set number of years (I'd set that at the local freeway speed, usually 65, and not even that until he gets his license).

I'm dead serious about you being in the wrong telling him no. But make him realize the risks and prepare for them so that his chances of being a grease spot are greatly reduced. If he does get one, the first couple times he rides it around town or wherever follow him in your car so that you can make sure he is riding with safety in mind and be able to get him help asap if he is on a backwoods road and he has a spill.

Answer 10

I understand your point of view, but if you know you husband is a safe person normally, just trust him out there let him get one.  

Answer 11

i've been riding 30 years now, most of my friends gave them up when they had kids, and then picked them back up as the kids got above 14-15 years old. And the wives who hated them, love them now.

You can ask him, he wont get mad. Maybe disapointed, but he will do the right thing. Yes they are dangerous, but so is leaving the house. Nobody who reads this will live forever, nobody to date ever has. You ust have to decide how you want to enjoy life while you are alive.

Answer 12

we love to go fast.... we love danger, we love the rush, we love the freedom... take your pick.

IMHO yes it is... how would you feel if he started deciding what you could or couldn't do? you wouldn't like it anymore then he does.... you can voice your opinion, that's a given... your'e his wife you have that right.... but honestly that's where that right ends, by voicing your opinion...

and what the dude said above me is true, he will resent you for it forever.. i still resent my grandma for nearly the same reason... i'm 23 now.. i was possibly as young as 4 when i decided i wanted a dirt bike... it was a life long dream that was only accomplished a few months ago thanks to my very loving and caring wife...

she still says 'i'm an idiot for getting it for you...' and when i ask why she says cuz i'm going to kill myself... but i'm not... well i mean i can't control everything, but i can ride safely and minimize my chances of wrecking.... that's about all you can do in a car as well... are you gonna keep him from driving one?

let him get the bike, be there to tell him i told you so if you want, w/e it takes... but later on you will regret this decision one way or another, i garuntee that right now.

"If you're telling him no and he listens, he doesn't belong on a motorcycle anyway."

are you married? cuz it really does change you, even if you think ti won't, it does... you start caring about your spouses opinion alot more then you've cared about anyone elses.... you are constantly seeking approval from them, you don't want to disappoint them or upset them... and if marriage hasn't changed you (and you have this mindset) well i really don't see your marriage lasting very long unless you relentlessly beat your wife and she's just scared to leave...

Answer 13

To get away from the old lady when she starts to nag.

Answer 14

You are wrong to tell him no and he will ALWAYS resent it.  This is probably not what you wanted to hear, but it IS true.  Make him get a good life insurance policy just in case.  But you really can't forbid it.

Answer 15

Its wrong for him to let you tell him no.

Answer 16

Being the wife of a motorcyclist, I understand your fears. I have two young children and my hubby was going to get rid of his bike when our first child came along because he felt that I needed to have him there and because of the risks associated with riding.

I told him that he couldn't and to this day it is this decision that has saved our marriage in more ways than I can count.

1. Riding is a stress reliever, and I try to encourage my hubby to go out as often as I can to revive life's batteries that doesn't involve riding to work.

2. It became an incentive for me to become licensed so that we can have couple time doing the 1 thing he really enjoys TOGETHER.

3. We are teaching our children the right way to ride by our actions,

4. You can lose your hubby at any time any day not necessarily by riding, he can have a car accident, his place of work can suddely be destroyed with no warning, he can die in his sleep  etc, will you stop him from doing all of those?

5.Trust him to be responsible, because a marriage not based on trust will not work.

6. Talk to him about it listen to his reasoning and also explain your fears, but the listening to his side and why is also a sign to your husband that you respect and love him as well.

7.He will resent you for sayin no.

If you still fell that it is just to dangerous you could always play dirty and say, yes get the bike,but you must also have something of equal value to the amount he spends on getting kitted out, with the bike, safety gear (ie helmet, gloves, riding jacket and pants, boots), and the required lessons that go with it (if not already licensed) and the payment of the actual license not to mention the insurances as well total that up and he gives you the same amount in cash for you to do as you wish........has worked a treat with many women who didn't want their hubby's riding (for some reason fellas don't like to be hit in the hip pocket).

Good luck with your predicament

Answer 17

If you're telling him no and he listens, he doesn't belong on a motorcycle anyway.

Answer 18

Motorcycles are not unsafe. It's unskilled riders and other drivers not paying attention that are unsafe. There are motorcycle safety courses offered to improve rider skill, but, as far as the other drivers, you still have to take your chances.

I've been riding since 1986 and I'm still here, because I have experience and ride defensively.  

Answer 19

You can tell him whatever you want. It is more dangerous than some things. You can get killed waiting for a Bus you know. A lot of women like bikes too. I'm not kidding when I say you should tell him, "Fine, get a $3Mil life insurance policy and you can do what you want!" He'll probably do it, but he'll be suspicious whenever he sees you fiddling with the brakes on the bike.

Answer 20

I was always of the opinion that if you give up Drinking,Smoking,Fast bikes,Loose women.....  you wouldn't actually live longer...

BUT IT WOULD SEEM LIKE IT..

Answer 21

Lots of things in life (all around us) are unsafe.  If we want to live our lives to the fullest, we can't make decisions based on fear.

I can't say exactly why ur husband wants a M/C, but what I can tell you is what happened in my house.

I wanted a M/C for years and years and my wife didn't want me to have one.  Long & short is I got one and this is the exact quote from my wife when she got off the back following our first trip together on it......."WOW !!  I gotta admit, that was awesome......I can't think of a better way to travel".

I can't get her off the thing now.  She looks for days we can get out and ride.  The bike, we both would say, has brought us closer together.