Men - do you want a stay at home wife?

Question

or would you rather she worked?

Answer 1

give her the wings so she can fly and come to me where ever am i...

Answer 2

If we can afford it and I make more Money and we have kids, YES. If we do not have kids, no. If she makes more money, then I should stay home. If we can't afford it, then no.

Answer 3

Heck, I'm a woman, and I'd like a stay-at-home "wife," too!!!!  Home life just runs better when there's someone tending to it like that.

It's not necessary for a woman to stay home to have that, though. Both spouses can work and pay for the kind of services that keep home life running smoothly. That would be my advice for someone--unless this question is about something other than keeping the home life running smoothly.

Answer 4

With kids, if it can be afforded, it's best if one parent stays home. Husband or wife, doesn't matter which.

Answer 5

Okay, I'm a woman, but...

no one really calls uses the term stay-at-home wife or housewife anymore.  Most women work or at least have a focus area of interest (nonprofit work, if their guy has big bucks).  Women work and some stop when they have kids and then call themselves stay-at-home moms.   It's nice to raise your own kids.  Then many of these SAHM's work part time when their kids go to school.

The whole just not working housewife thing is mainly for the rich and also for some women who have no education and just job opportunities that aren't fun at all.  Nowadays, women have the world open to them and anyone with any area of interest will want to explore it.

Answer 6

I've been in a relationship before where this dilemma came about, and because I was making enough to be financially secure, she worked as a volunteer. We planned to swap but the relationship was terminated before then.

It really depends on what she wants to do (or feels obligated to do) and the financial circumstances. Pragmatism is better for a relationship. I can't sit here and daydream over what I'd like my women to be like, because I'd feel too constrained by it.

Answer 7

My ideal wife would be a primary school teacher. Not too demanding, has holiday at the same time as the kids while having a degree so she has a brain in that head of hers.

So no, stay at home wives become too dependant on their husbands thus giving him the freedom to to what he wants without consequence, because without him she is finished.

Answer 8

I would really love a wife who goes to work, earns enough to keep me. looks after the house, cooks, cleans, plants the garden etc. etc. In my dreams eh?

I really like a wife who works in mutual partnership with me to build a life together whatever it takes and wherever we go.

Answer 9

its up to her

Answer 10

she can do whatever she wants. I'd prefer that she worked though. It would make life easier.

Answer 11

I would like her to goto work to help with the bills

Answer 12

Stay at home

Answer 13

WORK at something she really liked doing.

Answer 14

As long as someone is bringing in the money to support us as a couple, whether it's me or her or the both of us... then I don't mind if she stays home or if I do.  I just don't want anyone thinking that if she makes the choice, that I somehow forced her or that if I make the choice, that she somehow forced me.  That's political paranoia.

Answer 15

rather she worked and made more than enough so I could be the stay at home dad.

Answer 16

Could care less what she want to do, just do it. don't tell me about it

its her call!!

Answer 17

I think it is ideal but only if the wife takes it as serious as her husband takes his career. In other words if the stay at home wife is going to constantly complain about how hard it is to be with the kids and keep the house organized, etc. Then do everyone a favor... go out and get a job and pay for someone to do the "stay at home" chores.

I speak from experience. My wife is a stay at home. Although we have 5 kids all are in school and all but 2 are self sufficient. She complains non stop about how hard her life is and I get calls at work about it.

If you can't handle being a stay at home then do everyone a favor don't do it! But if you get a job don't B:thc about that either.

Answer 18

Whatever floats her boat...

So long as she pulls her own weight in the relationship...

Answer 19

I would leave it up to her. But if i had to choose i would say she work because not only do we make more money we get to share with each other the perspectives of our jobs. It is interesting to hear my parents talk about their jobs and how they would handle a situation in the other's proffesion.

Answer 20

It would be nice.

That way time off would be time off.

If she took care of the house while he worked,then at the end of the day they could relax and spend some time together,rather than both work out of the home all day and then have to do house keeping chores each evening and weekends.

I look at it as a form of specialization, it works for most major businesses, why not at home.

Answer 21

If i could afford it I would prefer my wife to stay home and usually I can and she enjoys staying home and taking care of the house and kids.