Men getting excited about having a baby?

Question

Me and my husband have a 16 month old and were talking about #2 and i seem more excited than him its all i think about and CANT WAIT! and hes like yah I'm excited and he wants another and he even talks about how if we have another boy he wants to try later for a girl so i mean i dunno it seems like he wants to but why don't they get as excited as us? they do when the baby gets here but like as far as trying its just like yah ok? Anyone gone through this and guys why do u do this?

Answer 1

Well money is one reason why 1 kid is enough for me right now. My wife doesn't seem to know where money comes from and I guess she thinks it grows from my butt hole.

Answer 2

My hubby shows his excitement sometimes, but for the most part he acts tough about it. I know he really wants another and it excited about it though. It showed most when I miscarried. He was more upset than I was some days and it took him longer to get over it. They just don't show as much emotion. Good luck to you!

Answer 3

My husband and I are on baby number three. He is the same way. He is happy to be a father again but it's like "hey, the baby is in you. I'm just an outsider" My husband went to the baby's first ultrasound because he wanted to see the s*x but for the rest of my visits he has opted to stay home and watch our two year old. It's just not that great a thrill for him. I am going through everything. The movement the growth. He brags that I'm pregnant and told everyone he is finally having a son but that's the extent of it. He dotes on the girls because they are here, he can hold them and experience them. The baby isn't here, it's just something that is growing inside of me. I know he'll be excited the day he gets to hold his son for the first time so I'm giving him slack on the fact that he isn't jumping for joy each time I tell him the baby kicked. :)

Answer 4

As an expecting father, once again, I also can sympathize with your husband. The truth is that once we've experienced it the first time the second time is just like watching the same movie over again. Most men tend to experience excitement once the baby arrives. Unlike you we cannot experience the wonder and beauty of pregnancy. So it's really just like a long wait for something cool to arrive in the mail. As the date draws near he will get more excited but your excitement will still be greater than his until the arrival date. Secondly pregnancy is not all that enjoyable for men. The mood swings are brutal, the lack of energy leaves a lot of other things neglected like house work, cooking, and s*x. We have to step up and take care of you for 9 months, etc. Don't get me wrong I realize that it's not a picnic for you either but you at least can physically feel the miracle of growing a baby within you. I guess you could say that we get a little jealous of that, along with all the attention you get, and the fact that we are often ignored by everyone from relatives to friends to doctors. Fathers get excited about fathering not pregnancy. My guess is he will show his excitement on B-Day.

Answer 5

1 they are men-they getting excited about cars, and sports, and manly things!!!!

#2 they do not get to expierence carrying the baby for nine months or that bond, they dont get to physically bond till the baby arrives!

#3 we are girls, we all want to be mommies to little bity babies! :)

Dont worry alot of men are like this, my hubby is!  

Answer 6

men show excitement in different ways, women express themselves a lot more than men.  i know how you feel though, because my husband does the same thing.  we are now trying for our fourth child and it's all i think about.  i have to talk about it with people on yahoo answers for cryin out loud, lol.  he doesn't share the same excitement with me but i know that he is happy about having a baby and he is hoping that it is a boy, right now we have three girls.  :)

Answer 7

I think it's just how guys act. We've been trying for a year, and it's clear we will need treatment, and I always tell him he seems to not really care and he gets mad because I assume. They care, they just don't show it.

Answer 8

i think its just a part of them being "manly"

Answer 9

I don't know. I think we get excited bc it become part of u. Men don't carry the babies

Answer 10

Men are never so excited, don't take it to your heart. They are all happy once it happens. So its really OK just go for it if it is what you want. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;... help please.  

Answer 11

They don't get to feel the life growing inside of them . To me I feel the need to make a baby. I feel like I want the experience of the pregnancy almost as much as the child. Men don't get to be excited until the baby is here.

Answer 12

Well i wouldn't put that label on all guys. I think he is excited but just not as much compared to you. I mean why dont women get so excited when our team scores a touchdown? Some guys are just calmer about it i think.

Answer 13

It is exciting to have a child but not one right after the other. But as your question goes. He is just as excited as you are men have there way of showing it. Some keep it on the DL but they really cant wait just as much as you. Congrats once you get pregnant